I was wondering how do all you Mama's feel about mother's who require "THEIR OWN LIVES". I am not refering to getting out every now and then and doing a girls night out. I am talking about Mother's that have their weekends free and frquent bars and do their own thing, not to mention are married.

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This is just my opinion,

I am very bothered by these kind of parents, let alone mothers. I know a few people who feel entitlement to having their own lives. Thay have no problem with leaviung their kids all weekend long to go out and get sloshed. I know we all need "our own time", which at the current moment I have chosen to make my family, children and husband my full time commitment. It makes me happy to fulfill my role as amother and wife. I mean to eaches own, but my thing is how is it possible to work and then go out and live your own life all weekend and possibly be a parent?

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All I have to say is my kids ARE MY LIFE and I don't have any respect for parents who pawn their kids on anyone that will take them so they can have their own life. I actually heard a mother say once that she worked full time so she did not have to be with her kids. I feel that she should not have had kids if she sees them as a burden.

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I have a big problem with it. Once you are a mother/parent your children are your #1 priority. I have a friend who cant wait for her weekend so she can go out clubbing etc. She puts the child in daycare on her days off of work so she can "relax". The kid is out of control.

I put my ex and my stepchildren first when I was married and put Nadia first now. Family is very important to me.

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This bugs me to NO end! We know a certain person who had a child because she wanted one soo soooo badly. Well, when the cute wore off after I dunno 3 weeks she decided she no longer wanted the responsibility. She stopped BFing because she couldn't stand feeling like a cow & wanted to go party. My BIL & a few other friends have seen her @ bars on week nights & weekends bragging about the baby, but yet she's never home with it. My BIL actually told her to take her drunk a$$ home & be a mother when she sobered up. Sure she'll have the kid with her some days but, we got some news a few weeks ago that she's giving up custody to the father because she "can't handle" being a mother. It's sad. You'd think she was a teenager but, she's my age.

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weird.
Well, I defiantly think anytime you are out getting wasted, its not good for you or for your family.
That being said, I do know some couples who are able to work out both partners having like one night per month to go out and have fun.
Now, I'm not talking about getting completely pissed drunk and driving around etc... But like a girl's night.
What I can't stand is when dad's still get to go out after work to bars etc... and it's no big deal but when mom's do it.....everyone and their brother wants to judge them b/c moms are not "supposed" to do that. Well, why arent' dads not "supposed" to either?
That always burns me up!!!
So, one couple I know, the husband would always go out after work and stay out till after mid-night sometimes leaving the mom at home with the kid.
Well she finally would start going out once in a while, and not even b/c she really wanted to, but b/c it was the only way to work it out b/c he was not going to stop and I guess they just fought about it for so long.
I think b/c he makes so much money and they live so well, that he uses that as the excuse for never spending time at home.

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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.(1 Corinthians 13:7)

I have a friend like that she had 2 kids wanted to have another "baby" after her kids got older and out of the cute little stage got pregnant again now all she does is say how they are driving her crazy and she can't wait for the weekend so she can leave the kids with DH and go out clubbing I mean you are 30 years old give me a break. I used to go out alot before I had a baby and it got old really fast I actually had my first "girls" night out since katie was born about 1 month ago and really the club scene was boring to me been there done that would much rather be at home with my little girl. I think when I decieded I wanted to be a mom I knew things were going to change and so far the changes are well worth it.

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Poshie~ I think it is so wrong the double standard. I think it is horrible for anyone in a marriage/ family setting to take time away from their child(ren) and partner. I have a friend who their myspace is filled with pics of partying and they have 2 kids and just think it is A-OK.

I feel in my own perspective, if I can not include my family in the activity I select then it is not a good choice.

My Exhusband used to always make time for himself, playing sports, bowling, boys night out and as per him my time alone was when I went to run errands alone..lol

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