hello,
im male, 34 years old. i found out a month ago that my partner has been cheating on me with a guy from work.
she started back at work, after a year off maternity, on the 3rd of jan this year. within a week she had met this guy, got his phone number and a week later took him back to her house at dinnertime, where they had passionate unprotected sex. (i know every detail! she eventually told me everything!).
she was seeing this guy regularly like this and on the odd evening for 5 months. always passionate, sometimes condoms used. at this point i will give you a brief history.
we used to live together, then we split up, a month later she found out she was pregnant.
all through the pregnancy we was on and off, even when my daughter was born. none of us knew what we wanted.
she has always suspected that i was playing away, and ive always suspected that she was.
we have our own houses now. i see her and my daughter a couple of times a week.and used to speak to her every night on the phone,(i wasnt the only one).
last year i slept with a woman during one of our off periods. i didnt enjoy it, i knew then that i wanted emma back. although i never told her at the time.
i was having a bit of rough time at work and used to moan a lot to her on the phone. we rarely used to have sex,( once a month if i was lucky), i would always ask for it but she didnt seem interested.
in feb this year i told her that maybe we should think about moving back in together. but at this stage she was already seeing this neil from work.she said she was happy how things were. this hurt me at the time, so i gave her space. i also asked her if she was seeing somebody else. no was the answer. unbeknown to me the affair continued.
on may 17 this year and after no sex for 2 months and her increasingly odd behaviour i went through her phone, it was true she was having an affair. i was/am still devastated. i got all the gory details off her and it hurt even more. then she told me that she used to do it anally with him, at dinnertimes, (only half an hour). i have often asked and she said no.
her affair ended straight away, she told me that she didnt even like him, and i wasnt meant to find out. and that she is sorry.and she will never do it again. i told her about the girl that i slept with and how i felt afterwards she says she feels the same. although she got caught and made that descision. she said that she thought that i was cheating all the time. and when this guy showed her interest she thought what the hell, lets have some fun. they never loved each other.
neil, (the other guy) has managed to stay with his fiance.
i want my emma back but im still hurting, i want somebody to tell me that she will never cheat again. will she cheat again?
is it worth it for my daughter? emma wants me back, she could just make a clean break out of it, she says she loves me. i love her.
thanks for reading lee, england.
she cheated, will she do it again?
