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Hi,

I actually just registered for this site because I really need some advice and opinions here.

My boyfriend and I are both 35. We have had been planning on moving in together when our leases are up this summer. I have 2 children from my ex-husband (one school age, one teenage). My boyfriend and I live about an hour apart and usually only have time together on the weekends, which is not enough. His brother is his roommate and my boyfriend has been a little nervous about approaching the subject with his family (then his brother will have to find his own place). We have both been looking forward to moving so we can stop the weekend commuting. My boyfriend has a wonderful mother whom I get along with very well. She is now having problems in her marriage and is taking about getting divorced. Now every day she is upset, constantly calling, complaining about her husband, very needy of my boyfriend. He has often been late to functions with me, or not shown at all, because his mom needed him at that moment. He also calls me daily, upset and tells me all about his mother's problems, how he needs to help her. Some days I don't get to tell him anything because the focus is entirely on that situation.

I have a great respect for this kind of responsibility to family and have tried to be supportive, even talking to a divorce attorney friend for his mom and trying to help her get a job. My kids are priority for me, so I understand the sense of responsibility. The other day I finally talked to him and said that I felt all the drama with his mom was starting to take a toll on our relationship. He got really mad at me and told me that his mom is his priority, the same as my kids are mine - which I see at two totally different things. He also said that I am being jealous of his family. Now he says he thinks we should wait another year to move in together because he doesn't know what is going to happen with his mom's situation and she might end up moving in with him and his brother.

Can I get opinions please? Because of my kids, I absolutely don't want to get into a bad situation. What should I do? Some of my friends have said RUN and some have said I need to be more patient. What do you think?

Thanks for any advice!!!!