Hi,
Im new to the site.. this is one of my first postings. Me and my husband met in January of 2009... we had so much fun together- it was that new feeling of a relationship.. was soooo great... we both agreed to take it slow since we both had just gotten out of relationships, him a previous marriage. Of course that didn't work out since we were so smitten by each other.. in May he left the entire month for training. In september.. the 19th we were married.. in October.. he deployed to Iraq.. saw him 2 weeks in Feb. for R&R- which vegas, alcohol and not seeing each other for so long- was not a good combo. In may I switched my unit to his so that I can be close to him. So as you can see we haven't been together half of the year that we've been married. Things are so different now. We hardly have anything to talk about and he seems so withdrawn from me. Whenever I try to talk to him about things, it starts an argument and we can't agree on anything other than we love each other and want to spend our lives together. The sex.. not so great... he can hardly ever get a hard on. I don't know if its the environment that we are in or if it's us. I really want things to work out but sometimes I just get so overwhelmed I don't say anything to him (B/c it will start argument) and I just feel like I'm going to explode with emotion. I don't have any girlfriends here and the ones I have in KS are going to another duty station by the time we get back in Oct. Somethings just seems so different since we got married, I guess I didn't expect things to change much but.. he seems so withdrawn from me. I don't think that he's seeing anyone or anything like that (although, of course, I could be wrong) ... anyways.. if anyone has any advice or can relate.. it would be greatly appreciated!