Anyone have any ideas on how to spice things up after children?
I'm a mother to three and between cleaning and cooking... **sigh** some days are just harder than others!!
What do you do?

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Oiy! I still haven't quite figured out how to spice things up. Of course, I the one who is always wanting it and he doesn't.

I know our sex life definately changed after our son was born. He's always scared Hunter will wake up or something.

He generally likes it when I light candles, where something silky and rub it on him. Not sure what else you are looking for. There are some good technique books out there and one spoke about touching them everywhere but there to highten things.

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Hunter Paul

I was lucky that my husband discovered a new benefit to baby care, breastfeeding!
He loves it and I'm usually so tired each day that it's a great relief for me to just lie there and let him nurse. So nice and relaxing for me and he has really calmed down a lot about sex.

we don't have any kids yet, but if you are looking to get him to want you as badly as you want him, try sending a sexy text message or email. i just discovered that this can be fairly effective! ;-)

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Try getting a sitter for the nite, have dinner, see a movie and while ur out whisper in his ear something u'd like to do to him when he gets home. Show a big of leg or clevage and get his mind wandering so he can't wait to get home. I love the lit candles idea and wearing something sexy - incorporate alot of foreplay! Kiss him, touch him etc but make him refrain from touching u for a short time - he'll get frustrated at getting so worked up and not being able to touch u.

Hopefully it works hun!

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Hi Jess lol! Those are great ideas, I need some help in this area as well. We have hectic schedules and by the time the kids are asleep, I'm ready to crash myself.

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Spice in a relationship after kids is tough. But well worth it. Because without your relationship, you wouldnt have kids. lol Its a real circle. We have always tried to make time for US. Even if it is just a little kiss now & then. We do have date nite at home. Where we put the kids to bed & spend time just US> Watching a movie, eating dinner, snuggling or more intimate things. We try to do it AT LEAST once a month. Sometimes more.

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You have to plan it...just like you plan your day! I know it sounds hoaky...but it really works!! Try it!

I also think if you are involved in a church find out if they have Couples night out...This was our main issue...we moved...and no family is near-by and finding a sitter in a city where you know no one can be scary...Our church as a weekly Couples bible class for an hour...and then you get an hour after that with FREE childcare to go out to dinner...or home for a quickie...LOL...It is so worth it!

Also remember it is HEALTHY for your children to see Mommy and Daddy hug...and give smooches, sit next to each other on the couch...etc...You are paving the way for any intimate relationships they have when they grow up!! Don't blow it...lol...I know...Its a lot of pressure being a roll model!

Hugs!
btw I am a newbie here...and SO excited to be a part of this forum...

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