Feb/Mar Chatty thread

[Care75]

Yeah, I had thought of that too, and I'm hoping that is why. I know that right now I'm kind of tired of visitors so it's not such a bad thing.

[2moms2be]

Yea, it could be that...I sure hope that is the case, and it probably is. How are you doing Care?

[2moms2b]

Hello everyone.

So, my appointment on Tuesday was a bit irritating, but mostly because of the events of Sunday night.

I totally took a running nose dive on Sunday night. I was hearing the unmistakable and horrific sound of one of our cats about to yak. I knew which one it was and knew she was on the only fabric chair in the living room, so I start walking very quickly towards the chair to unceremoniously push her into the floor. Well, I didn't do a very good job of negotiating the turn in my "big as a barn" state. As I tried to take several running steps to keep from falling, all I really did was increase the speed with which I hit the floor. Luckily, I fell on my right knee and left wrist. Of course I was worried about Olivia, but knew that most likely everything would be find since I just kind of rolled through the fall and actually never hit my belly. We called the doc who asked some questions and told us things to watch for. Our kick count was fine and she was wiggling around a lot.

So... fast forward to Monday morning. I have never been so sore in my whole life. My wrist was just downright painful, I was stiff all over, and my calf muscle is injured pretty bad, I have a nice gimpy limp now. Miraculously, my knee is TOTALLY fine... which is interesting because I had a fairly bad injury to this knee as a teenager while playing soccer.

At my OB appointment on Tuesday, I wanted to hear that she was almost here because I was so sore from the fall and getting so uncomfortable because of my ever expanding belly. No luck... I am EXACTLY where I was before... slightly softened cervix, fingertip dilated and O is only at -3 station. The doc said she could poke O's head and she would just float up and back down... so she is not engaged.

Now we are down to having a sonogram to check size and for distress next Tuesday and discussing options if we haven't progressed. AHHH! I have been blessed to have such an "easy" pregnancy, and I hate that I am getting so freaking frustrated. It's not that I want her to come early... she is welcome to stay cozy for a week past the due date, but not making ANY progress is really driving me NUTS.

Thanks for letting me vent!

Dawn

[Care75]

Dawn- I'm glad you're okay after the fall. Thank goodness Olivia is okay too!! I'm sorry about the lack of progress. I think it can all of the sudden happen no matter of your progress so you never know. And on the flip side, a girl at work was dilated at like 4 cm for 3 weeks!

I'm doing better since I decided to pump exclusively. I know that I won't be able to do this for more than a couple of months at the most, but I was not enjoying the breastfeeding and I felt like I was missing out on the twins and the bonding- reading books to them, snuggling, etc. because the b/f ing took so much out of me. My OB did prescribe Zoloft for me as well which I started today. Hopefully, it will help as well.

My parents are coming to stay the night tomorrow! Susan and I are so excited. I'm sure I'll get up to pump at least once, but maybe we can get at least 4-5 uninterrupted hours of sleep!! And we'll be able to sleep in the same bed! We've been doing "shifts" so that one of us can get a couple hours uninterrupted which is especially important since DP is working but we haven't had much time but a few naps to sleep together.

[LauraH]

I know Dawn - the last few weeks waiting for Caleb were as bad as the 2WW. Every time we had an appointment & Carolyn was at zero I thought I would lose it! I was going to say the same thing Carrie did - it could all happen at once so try not to get discouraged.

I know I'm running the risk of sounding really bizzare here but I'm used to people thinking (or is it knowing?) I'm a little off. Have any of you moms who are feeding formula noticed that your babies smell like snack foods? The other day I SWORE Caleb had been eating popcorn then last night I thought he smelled like Fritos! I mentioned it to Carolyn & she said she thought he smelled like popcorn too! (Perhaps I should stop sharing things like that)


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[2moms2b]

Thanks Carrie and Laura! I needed to hear that. AND Laura with the "snack food smelling" Caleb... you made me laugh out loud and I needed that.

Carrie - I think if pumping and bottle feeding makes your lives better, you are definitely doing the right thing! Glad your parents are coming in so that you can get some much needed rest!

[2moms2be]

OMG!!! I think my girls poo smells like burned popcorn!!!!! Please we are all a little "off" here I think...

Dawn- Im so glad you are ok!!! And you did a great job of story telling I could totally see it happening.

[AussieJenn]

My goodness Dawn, I'm glad other than soreness, you seem to be okay after your nasty fall. Please be really careful from now on! I can imagine knowing your've made no progress is extremely frustrating. Something to be said for my OB NEVER checking on me, actually I didn't get an internal even during my 2 day labor...but that's another story! At least nothing to obsess over.

Laura, babies drinking formula really do seem to smell a little different! Specially their dirty diapers though! I remember when Mason switched.... Hmmm, not sure if he smelled of popcorn though...too funny!

Carrie I'm glad you have a plan in place and that the exclusive pumping is working out for you. A happier mommy means happier babies. Good luck with getting 5 hours uninterupted sleep...cuddled up next to Susan.

[JesnKel]

Jen - never checked you ?! egad.

Dawn - I'm so glad you're okay. I've been worried about falling since I started showing. Luckily my feet are so big I can still see my feet - although I am certainly less balanced than usual.

I hear you about the wait. I'm not as close as you are, but at my appointment this week, the Dr. basically said "expect to go past your due date" - I'd known that somewhere in the back of my head, but reeeaaally don't want to go late. REALLY. She starts checking me for "cervical ripeness" in two weeks.

Care - I hope the bonding is easier now! Get some rest. I hear ou on the visitors issue. As much as I adore having so much love and support, I'm kinda glad DP's step mom and dad won't be here 24/7 (because of his chemo) after the birth. Terrible thing to be glad about.

Patty - we get to both be on the birh certificate here in CA also - but it has been recommended that we do the 2nd parent adoption thing. Just in case someone even more conservative enters the white house.

YEAY it's Friday. What a week! 3 weeks left of work for me...

[2moms2be]

Originally Posted by JesnKel Patty - we get to both be on the birh certificate here in CA also - but it has been recommended that we do the 2nd parent adoption thing. Just in case someone even more conservative enters the white house.

Ok, that is my ultimate nightmare!

OK, all you pregos....BE CAREFUL! I fell in my 1st trimester and it took FOREVER to heal. Because of your ligaments being so loosey goosey it hurts worse and takes forever to heal!

[swell22]

Hey Ladies,

Sorry I haven't been around in awhile. I've just been ridiculously sick. First it was constant nausea and then I had the flu for a week and now we are sort of coming back to the nausea again. Fun.

Dawn, I'm glad you are okay after your fall and Care, I'm glad things are looking up for you.

I have a PIO shot question. I think that Carrie, you took them (maybe I'm making that up???) Anyway, I was on them from the beginning until Wednesday night. I was 11 weeks then and my RE said that I could stop taking them. Since then I have been FREAKING out that the baby is not going to be okay because of it. I just had my last dr's appt on Wednesday, so I have another month to go before I can go back and make sure it's okay. I literally can't sleep at night because I am afraid that the baby is going to stop growing and die because my placenta possibly hasn't fully taken over yet. I think I'm just a nutcase, but when did you stop your shots and did you freak out about it too?????

Everyone's "new" (probably not so new, but new to me) pictures are sooooooo cute.

[2moms2be]

Hi suellen, sorry you have been ill I didn't do the PIO I did the suppositories, but same concept. As long as you dont start bleeding red blood baby and placenta are doing good. I know how scarry it can be, but try to enjoy your pregnancy...in a few months you will KNOW that baby is fine cause s/he will be kicking the tar out of you!

[Care75]

Swell- You should definitely be okay. The placenta definitely should have taken over by now. I was on them until 13 weeks (12 weeks and then 1 week weaning down). However, I understand the feeling that everything's not okay. I don't think I stopped worrying about bleeding (and checking the TP every time I went to the bathroom) until well into the 3rd trimester. Hope you feel better soon!

[WannaBMom74]

Care- glad you seem to have a good plan and you are doing better

Dawn- glad to hear you and olivia are doing ok after the fall and yes things can move quickly cause I was not dialated or efaced at all and even though I was induced the dr expected that I may take up to another day or so to go ibto labor and it only took a few hrs.

Swell- I felt the same way I was so scarred when I stopped the PIO injections but I stopped at week 10 and everything was fine.

We go Tuesday for our court date for the Adoption so I will let you know how it goes I also don't like the way they word it like I am giving up my rights cause I am not giving up my rights I am just trying to get shared rights for My dp and I think it should just be a given I mean woman can basically name any man who is willing to sign the birth certificate as the father whether or not he is the biological father so I don't see a difference but oh well I don't want to get started on all the rights I feel I should have

[2moms2b]

Thanks everybody to listening to me gripe about "the fall" and the ensuing appointment. I am usually a pretty positive person and surprised myself with the irritation and such! OY!

Anyway... feeling much better these days. Still a little bit sore, but it is WAY better. I feel a little better every day, so I realize now, that because of all the pulled muscles in my lower abdomen, delivery would probably really stink if I had her early.

Jenn - That is really weird to me that they didn't check you at all. Maybe it was good though... ignorance can be bliss.

Jes - I don't know if the time seems to be passing slowly for you at this point, but for me... it went by really fast, until this last week. You are getting close and it is exciting. I am truly not all that upset about going past. Actually, I had some "issues" with my due date in the beginning. They did it off my LMP, but in reality, if they did it from my date of insemination, it would be 4 days later anyway. I had such a WEIRDO cycle the month we conceived Olivia... they kept checking the follicles and they weren't ready day after day... we actually inseminated a full 5 days later than we had in the previous 2 cycles. So... I had told myself no to be surprised if I went past my date. (My self psycology apparently broke down a little bit last week... hahahah.)

SueEllen - Those first few months of pregnancy were difficult... all the waiting is very hard. I *still* check for blood every time I go to the bathroom... which is a little ridiculous at this point. I was on Progesterone suppositories and we took them through the end of week 10. I was soooo nervous, but in the end, it all worked out. I guess all I am saying is that I think we have all been there and understand your worry. Unfortunately, part of this is just a waiting game.

Jen - Make sure and let us know how the whole thing goes, I will be sending good thoughts your way.

Dawn

[LauraH]

Jen - I HEAR YA on the parental rights thing! I could rant for days...people who have no business having kids can pop them out all over the place, the system tries to reunify people who abuse or neglect their kids, but we need permission to raise our kids as our own.

Speaking of messed up situations, I just have to share this. I ran into an ex back in June at PRIDE. I was really suprised to see that she had a 2 year old boy. Carolyn was just pregnant so we bonded over the mommy thing & she told me to let her know when our baby was born. I emailed her last week to let her know & I asked her about the details of her kid. Get this: (I should add that I certainly knew how to pick them in the past! She was my LAST bad girlfriend!) She first tried to do foster/adoption but DCF turned her down because she isn't stable so she decided to have a kid on her own. Smart. So she found a gay man through a friend at work who wanted to be a dad. She told him that she really wanted the experience of having a child but wanted to only be a part time mother. Less than shared custody - he would have full custody and but she would be in the child's life. They both got lawyers & put everything in writing. Then, when she got the positive pregnancy test she changed her mind and wanted FULL custody!! Can you believe it?!?! That poor man. It's an adoptive parents worst nightmare. As it turns out they spent about a year in court and now they have joint custody. It gets me so angry that she would do that to him. I understand her wanting to change her mind when the idea of a baby became a reality, but she had PLENTY of time to think about that during all of the meetings with lawyers to set up the arrangement. What a jerk!




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[2moms2be]

That is just AWEFUL! That poor man, now he has to deal with her for the rest of his life...

[Care75]

Laura- How awful!!

Jen- Can't wait to hear about the adoption. I know the giving up your "parental rights" is so ridiculous because it's not what you're doing at all!

So here's our issue... So we're on bottles now and at the hospital they gave us the Enfamil "Slow Flow" disposable nipples. We started using them when I was breastfeeding for supplementation and they worked fine. Anyway, we bought some of the Evenflo BPA free bottles and they have "slow flow" nipples too. Harper and Jackson can suck for 10 minutes and not even get half an ounce! And Har