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Okay so we're just a few days short of our 9 month wait. It's really starting to get to me. Our sw told us that as an average, most adoptive parents at their agency are placed within a year. Well our year is only 3 months away and I'm losing hope. Our profile has not been shown to a single mother since April. On the Bethany website there are about 30 couples online and that doesn't include all the families waiting that chose not to put their profile online so all in all I am guessing the state of Iowa has over 50 couples waiting. There have hardly been any placements lately and I just feel so confused. I wonder about switching to another agency but I know if I do that I'll have to pay more money. I've considered switching to international but I know with that we won't get an infant and our nursery is ready for an infant. It just doesn't make sense. I know it's all in God's timing I know, but it still doesn't change the fact that there are so many uncertanties and I just don't know what to do. I honestly don't know if I could be on the waiting list for 2+ years. Granted I'm still young (27) but my gosh I wanted to be done having all my children by the time I was 30. At this rate we're going to have to turn right around and start the adoption for #2.
Thanks for letting me vent.
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DH: Ross
DS: Isaac
DS: Caleb
Final Homestudy 12/18/06
Approved 1/3/07
Isaac Avery born 10/20/07
The Call 10/21/07
Isaac home forever 10/23/07
Caleb Benjamin born 7/2/08
Amber, I can totally relate to how you are feeling right now but you just need to trust yourself and you'll know when it is time to expand your options. Maybe you could set a meeting with the director of Bethany and ask for some explanations and then go from there. How much money would you be losing out on if you switched agencies?
Keep your chin up I bet it just feels extra hard right now because you completed that wonderful nursery for the baby.
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Kristine- Host of Adoptions and Other Options and DP- Lu
I know it is terribly frustrating to wait. Hang in there. Your baby is coming. And with Kristine... your instincts will tell you when it is time to make a move.
Hey, SheKnows Guest - we need you! The SheKnows TTC boards aren't going anywhere - but perhaps you'd consider helping us grow our 
So confused
Hang in there. Your baby is coming. And 
with Kristine... your instincts will tell you when it is time to make a move. 
