Jenn- Are you out there????

theluvof2moms · #1 (**permalink**) 08-08-2007, 07:58 AM

Come and say, "hello" let me know what the latest happenings are.

I haven't seen you on in a while and wanted to make sure everything was ok.

JBB373 · #2 (**permalink**) 08-08-2007, 09:43 AM

Everything is ok - been a little under the weather for the last couple days and DH was traveling. It is HARD being a single married Mom! My house looks like a disaster! If I don't do laundry everyday it feels like I'm hopelessly behind. I haven't been able to do any since Saturday! I got calls from the daycare on Friday and Monday stating one of the twins had a rash and needed to picked up! This "rash" wasn't visable to anyone besides the daycare. I even took Jacob to the doctor yesterday to get a note - he diagnosis a "Fictitious rash" the daycare is like what did they say -- I told them absolutely nothing they were like really? I think they were over ratio or something but I got to waste 4 hours of my day for absolutely nothing. I so wouldn't bring a kid to school if I truely thought they were sick! The only good thing was as this wasn't a scheduled doctors appointment I didn't have to have the bio's there so I could talk freely to the doctor. Jacob is almost 20lbs and will be turning 6 months a week from Saturday. My Chunky Monkey! Hannah saw me when I dropped Jacob back off and gave me the biggest smile but was not a happy camper when she figured out I wasn't taking her. Those smiles are priceless.

The foster kiddos parent have their adj. hearing (determining how long they need treatment prior to the return of their kids). I will know a lot more about how long they are staying with us by September - something that makes me nervous - I don't ever want these little ones thinking we didn't or don't care about them. I actually think its easier on the adults because they can understand and mentally prepare for what is happening even if they don't agree. These wee ones will never understand.

DH is applying for a job in Austin - so if he gets he will probably commute M-R and be home F-Sun. Excellent opportunity for him. After we know what is happening with the foster kiddos we will move there. Of course I may be putting the cart in front of the horse . . .

Both of the older kiddos are starting new schools next week - so we have been busy with back to school activities as well.

Other than that we have our last vacation prior to baby planned. We are going to Hawaii at the end of the month. DH has to work for a day or two but we are staying 8 days. I so love Hawaii.

Oh Kris - I know you love pregnancy updates so I will include a link for just for you - http://www.bjrr.net/new_page_4.htm

Thanks for checking up on me - I usually have time to lurk not a lot of time to post.

When I hear about the outcome of the hearings I'm sure you will be hearing from me!

I hope babies will be in all our deserving momma's arms very very shortly!

theluvof2moms · #3 (**permalink**) 08-08-2007, 02:11 PM

Holy Cow!!! Girl you have it all going on right now. Sometimes I read your posts and I get tired just imagining a day in your household. :smile

You are home alone with all these kids, working and trying to keep some assemblance on the house, no wonder you don't make it on here very often.

The twins really sound like they are thriving with you!!! I never new the bio's had to be present for doctors appointments. I swear I learn more and more from you and Marian everyday. I think I would really like to do foster care after we bring this baby home, I may need to throw this on the table to Lu. (and then see how our state works with our situation)

I have to agree though a childs smile is just priceless, you can be so sad or so stinkin tired and they flash that smile and it just WARMS your heart right up.

Will the older boys being going to the same school? Remind me are they the same age or is Jadon a little older? I can not believe the summer is almost over and it is time for back to school in like 2 weeks. My gosh how the time just flies right on by.

Ok, I wanna go to Hawaii, I can be like a Nanny or something for you.

Thanks so much for the PG update, I do love getting updates on you because I know how hard you worked to get to this point.

I will keep all my fingers and toes crossed that DH gets the job on Austin if that is what you both really want. L is currently looking for work in Delaware so we can move back there, I have alot of family there and it would be so nice to be closer to them especially once the baby comes along.

Please keep us posted on the upcoming hearings. I do hope that the court can truly see what a wonderful, safe, loving family you can provide for these children and they see how you have already provided a safe and loving home. I don't know if I can ask this and if I can't please just tell me, I will understand but what kind of things do the bio parents need to do to prove they can take care of these children in the courts eyes? I just wonder but like I say if, it is none of my business I understand.

So glad to hear from you!!!!

theluvof2moms · #4 (**permalink**) 08-08-2007, 02:13 PM

One more thing-- hope you feel better soon!!!

mildlydelirious · #5 (**permalink**) 08-08-2007, 04:45 PM

Wow Jenn.

You never cease to amaze me with how much you do and how well you do it!

Know that I am always cheering you one.

~m

JBB373 · #6 (**permalink**) 08-09-2007, 09:42 AM

Funny thing is I never feel like I'm doing enough or well for that matter. I feel guilty for all my negative feelings towards bio mom right now. What I'm told they say to the 5 year old is just not parenting in my opinion. They keep promising him the world saying stuff like when you get home we will buy you this or throw the biggest party for you! Nothing like dangling a carrot in front of the kiddo. The other day I was talking to Jadon about his birthday in October and told him that we were planning a Magic Party my foster kiddos bithday is one month later and I didn't want him to feel left out so I told him that for his birthday we were planning a roller skating party - he told his parents and they promise a bigger "better" Tony Hawk party. Before me he didn't even know that he had a birthday! I am trying to teach him stuff doesn't make him special but that he is what is special - he told me "he isn't special" I have many more examples this was what was bought up last night. He has been getting into fights a school and when asked why he told me my parents told me to always fight back!

I'm really not sure about the treatment plan - as this is my first long term placement. I know the state has to be satisfy the children are going to be safe in their house but I don't know how they prove that - the bio's still do not take any responsiblity for anything that happend to the children to get them placed. I would imagine that would go a long way.

All I know is the state considers it a parents right and part of all treatment plans in NM for parents to attend all scheduled doctors appointments.

Anyway I'm learning as I go as this is all new to me -

JJ is actually a full year younger than but is going to another year of P-K because of his birthday - he recognizes all letters, numbers, and is doing basic reading and math right now. My Foster kiddo is starting kindergarten but is not ready either skills or emotionally. I'm really hoping to get him screened for some special ed classes and started with counseling but waiting for the referrals to come through in order to do that. Until then my hands are tied in doing beyond my best.

Sorry so long - I tend to ramble!