Feeling like I am stuck..

nicoleb · #1 (**permalink**) 04-07-2007, 05:55 PM

Anyone else ever felt as if they are stuck on a certain step in this process and you just can't make the time move faster to get it moving?
I am waiting for the classes to come and then the homestudy, but in the meantime I want to be on top of the paperwork so when it is time to have all the dossier requirements in order they are. But I don't have a list of what I need and the time frame to have them all certified by.
I really want to be able to hand in all the documents at once and say here they are.

Is this a normal reaction or am I just an eager beaver. I feel like I wasted 2 years of my life trying to have a baby and now I am just catching up as fast as I can.

Hope everyone has a happy easter.

Nicole

JBB373 · #2 (**permalink**) 04-07-2007, 06:50 PM

I was the exact same way. I had a 3 ring binder with sheet protectors - I had at least one orginial and a copy of it behind - both the agency and CYFD was suprised how organized I was . . . but they said it would make the process so much faster and they appreciated that. I was told by CYFD that normally the longer part of the process is getting the paperwork from the people . . . wasn't my case.

Could you ask you agency for their paperwork checklist. Everyplace I check with had some form of their checklist that they were happy to share.

Hope you get unstuck soon!

mildlydelirious · #3 (**permalink**) 04-08-2007, 03:21 PM

I know what you mean! ANY waiting seems interminable now that you have made your decision and are on your way. I think the way you are feeling is so totally normal. Hang in there.

~m

llamamama02 · #4 (**permalink**) 04-09-2007, 05:39 AM

yeah I'm stuck in wait mode too. We can't do anything until our house is done and that isn't starting until May.

That binder with sheet protecters is a great idea. I'm going to get something like that and at least get ready to be organized. Great idea!

theluvof2moms · #5 (**permalink**) 04-09-2007, 06:54 AM

No worries, I think what you are feeling is absolutely normal. I know L and I felt like that alot. I would def call the agency and see if they can give you a checklist of things that you will need to get ready. You can start filling it all out and making copies of stuff but I wouldn't get anything notarized yet only because the notary signature expires and you wouldn't want it to expire halfway through the process but gather as much as you can and the day it is time to notarized you'll have it all gathered.

In the meantime try and enjoy some of the last things you'll get to do before a new little baby comes to town. I know when I was not feeling well last week I savored every minute I got to lay on the couch and just be sick and not sick with a little one that needs my attention. YKWIM??

theluvof2moms · #6 (**permalink**) 04-09-2007, 08:19 AM

Hi Nicole,
I may have told you about this website before so please forgive me if I am repeating myself but you should check out guatadopt . com (take out the spaces) on the left hand side they have a link to Dossier Preparation that could help you get started on gatherin your information. Hope this is helpful for you!

nicoleb · #7 (**permalink**) 04-11-2007, 12:53 PM

Grrr....
Thanks for all your replies ladies. I am glad to know it isn't just me feeling like this. I did end up emailing the agency and this is the reply I recieved.

"I wanted to let you know that we don’t want to have you start gathering dossier documents quite yet. First we need to get you “approved” for participation in an LSS adoption program – that means that your social worker has to meet with you, your background checks have to be completed, you have to attend training and we need to prepare your home study. Once we approve you, we can officially accept you into our Guatemala program. That means that we will send you our Guatemala application packet and our detailed contracts/agreements for that particular program. Once we have the application and contracts back from you (along with the fees due at that point in time), then we send you our dossier packet. We will keep you moving through these steps as expeditiously as is possible.

We don’t, however, want you to start gathering documents for your dossier just yet because dossier documents have a limited shelf life and you could end up having to redo your dossier due to early expirations if you start gathering these things too soon. Please know that your social worker will guide you through each step at the appropriate time.

Thanks for your patience. I know that you are very excited and eager to get going. We will keep you moving just as quickly as we possibly can."

I am so disapointed. I wanted to be able to just hand everything in at once instead of waiting for each agency that I have to get paperwork done to forget about mine and just let it sit around on their desk. It isn't like it is going to expire in 6 months is it??

I feel just like this little icon right now.

Am I being unreasonable?

Thanks ladies,
Nicole