I do not even know what to say....

Constance_13 · #1 (**permalink**) 10-11-2007, 12:31 AM

hi,

My best friend just left and I am going to try and get some sleep but will most likely not be able too. Why does the bad keep happening....will it ever stop? The baby is doing ok currently (a very good thing) BUT……

As you guys know my DH had to go back home. He got in just before 2am Wednesday (today). He slept for a bit and then starting putting out house back together down there as we had some Reno’s done while he was away. He then went out to lunch, went over to his parents for a visit and then this even was out for dinner with some friends. They just finished eating and he started to feel strange. He was sweating, his eyes dilated and he lost the use of the left side of his body and then his speech went. Our friends called his mom and took him to the ER right away. They got him in and he had all the signs of having a stroke!!!! HE IS ONLY 25!!!!!! I have been sitting here helpless for the evening and so upset my GF came over to sit with me while we waited.

They still do not know exactly what happened but his heart is clear and there is no blood on his brain plus there are no signs of any clots in his body. All good things. They will be keeping him for 1-3 days to run test and monitor him to try and find out what hell is going on.

I feel so helpless being stuck up here and not able to be there with him. This is one of the worst feelings in the world. He is my world and I am sooo scared rate now!!!! I just want to be home and there with him!!!! His grandpa snuck a cell phone in so I could talk to him for a min, cuz I was in a complete panic.....he told me not to worry....ya right!!!! He said he was feeling better, it was good to talk to him but he did not sound right. PLEASE GOD let him be ok....the baby and I need him to stay here and be around so badly!!!!

Please pray for us!!!!

Mommie2Ava&Presley · #2 (**permalink**) 10-11-2007, 05:36 AM

So sorry Amanda. I will definitely keep your DH in my prayers and you as well, having to be so far away from him. Keep us posted.

mk9906 · #3 (**permalink**) 10-11-2007, 05:37 AM

Oh Amanda. I am praying for you and your husband.

I know you must feel so helpless, I can't imagine.

There's is nothing that can be said that will make you feel any better, so I won't.

I am praying for your family.

Tkeys · #4 (**permalink**) 10-11-2007, 06:09 AM

Oh no! I"m so sorry . . . I hope he is doing well, and recovers quickly.

Is there any way you can get special permission/visa to go down for a quick visit (due to a medical emergency)? How frustrating for you.

Try to stay calm, and I hope everything is resolved quickly, and you can be with him permanently soon.

mb80 · #5 (**permalink**) 10-11-2007, 03:03 PM

Amanda- I am so sorry, be strong for him and the baby. Let us know what we can do, besides pray, which I will be doing.

nessak · #6 (**permalink**) 10-11-2007, 03:21 PM

OMG!! I am so sorry! I will keep him and you in my prayers. I hope everything is okay. Please keep us updated as soon as you know anything. HUGS TO YOU.

Haras · #7 (**permalink**) 10-11-2007, 05:41 PM

My best friends dd had a stroke at 18. She was playing with her son when it happened, thankfully her dh was there. It was caused from a narrow artery at the back of her head. It happened on her left side which effected her right side. Because they saw it happening and their acting quickly, after a few hours she was able to talk, though slurred. She has regained mobility on her right side and is talking fine, tough at times when she get emotional she stutters.
The point is she DID suffer from a stroke and today she is fine. She does need some pt on her right arm, but that is just to regain her strength. Also, she is now 7 moths pg with her second son.
Have faith, I have seen miracles happen, Christiana is one of them, and so is your DH.
Stay strong for him, though you can not be with him, he will need need your strength to carry him through this. Believe me, I know, this is coming from personal experience both from having it happen to me and to having it happen to someone that I love.

Constance_13 · #8 (**permalink**) 10-11-2007, 09:09 PM

THANKS for thinking of us!!! Thank you everyone for your well wishes positive thoughts and prayers. They all mean more then I can possible say at this time.

I am sad to report that I have no news yet

I was on and off the phone all night and then again all day today. The big main test that we have all been waiting for was postponed till this evening and now we will not get any results till tomorrow. I have been in contact with my DH on and off through out the day….he is sounds much better but I can tell he is not him self and he is really worried about me……this is so messed up….I think the stress of everything we have been going though over the last year and half has finally taken its toll and he just might have hit his breaking point. He tends to be strong in front of everyone but especial me…..he is truly amazing but I think that he has internalized way more then anyone should and now it’s manifesting physically. I wish I could do more for him, I just feel so weak…..I wish I were stronger but I just do not know how much more I have left. I am hanging in there but only by a thread….I just pray it does not break. I am a VERY emotional girl and with this PG it has intensified that so much I am having trouble dealing with everything. I truly do not know what to think....I am so physically, emotionally and mentally exhausted. I just want my husband to be ok and I want to be home with him.

I still have not slept yet....I am really hoping I will be able too get some tonight. I have been resting but it’s not the same. I did not go into work today and I believe I will be staying home tomorrow too.

I am doing my best not to worry and EVERYONE keeps telling me that but it’s easy to say and hard to do. My DH is my world and I love him more then anything.....I NEED him in my life and this has really scared me. I know I need to look after me and the baby and I am trying but I have to be honest I am not doing that great at it. I did finally get some food to stay in my tummy tonight and I just took my vitamins....so far so good at keeping them all down.

I will update you guys as soon as I know anything!!! The waiting is one of the hardest parts......aside from feeling so helpless. I am such a mess……I hope NO one has to ever experience anything even close to this.

THANK you again everyone….you are all amazing.

ONEMORETIME · #9 (**permalink**) 10-12-2007, 05:29 AM

Soo sorry to hear about your DH. Praying for him, you and the little one.

Tkeys · #10 (**permalink**) 10-12-2007, 06:57 AM

I'm so sorry that you are going through all this, Amanda. I would suggest trying some things to help you relax . . . yoga, a massage, or accupuncture - whatever you think will work for you. Because you are right, saying "relax" and succeeding at it are two very different things! If you have a hobby or activity that relaxes you, maybe do that. Or ask one of your friends to come up with an activity to do with you that will keep you somewhat distracted . . . that often helps with relaxing. And remember . . . your DH WANTS you to relax, so doing these things is EXACTLY what he wants you to do.

As for DH . . . well, I hope you get good news very quickly today. There are other possibilities besides a stroke, and all of them can have amazing, full recoveries. My friend had a small aneurysm in her brain (basically, a leaky blood vessel), and the blood buildup caused similar problems. They were able to do a procedure to relieve the buildup and tie off the source of the leak, and now all is well again! Recovery did require a bit of physical therapy and occupational therapy, but she is back to herself again, and it happened quickly.

I'm sure the hardest part for you is the distance. I'm so sorry the immigration issue is making this worse. I guess I can only encourage you to chat with your immigration attorney - sometimes medical emergencies can speed things up a bit, or they can grant special exception visitation visas. I can't believe that married & pregnant you still can't get your green card . . . .