First Baby Anxiety!!!!

Constance_13 · #1 (**permalink**) 10-17-2007, 12:35 PM

Hi,

I am hoping this is normal and that I am not the only one!!! The last few nights when lying in bed I have had a mild panic attack. I get crazy thoughts in my head like: "OMG - what am I doing, I am not ready to be a mom!!", "I am going to be horrible at this!!", "Are we really ready for a baby now with everything else happening?", "Are we going to be able to handle all the changes?", and many others that keep popping up.

Please do not get me wrong.....I am very excited and have wanted a baby for a very long time. It’s a miracle that I am actually PG and I am so very thankful for that but I get these waves of fear. The doctors told me at 16 that if I ever wanted to have my own children I needed to have them early (they meant before I was 23) due to my endo (I have it very bad and have had since I was a teen). Now this advise was all well and good but I was not ready to have kids then and I knew with each passing year that my chances would be less and less and that it would be harder and harder. I believe that part of the reason it took to so long for me to conceive was my medical issues and part was because the timing was off. I am now 31 and feel it’s a great age….I have lived enough like for 10 women and there have been many ups and downs but I have grown and learned from all of it and I feel I am at a good age for starting my family.

I am so excited to have this little being growing inside me and maybe it’s all the stress my DH and I have been under but I just get these little attacks of fear and anxiousness. Is anyone else having them? Are then normal? I truly am scared that I am going to be a bad mom and I am so VERY terrified of the actually delivery part.

If anyone has any suggestions or advise I would truly appreciate it. THANKS for listening. You guys are the best!!!

nessak · #2 (**permalink**) 10-17-2007, 04:43 PM

I cannot say b/c I am not am a mom, but you will do GREAT!! All is going to be fine just follow your motherly instinct~we are women so we all have one of those!! I hope the panic attacks go away and I am sure it is totally normal to have feelings like that... I bet it is even a milestone marker in pregnancy LOL
((HUGS))
Nessa

mommaphoebs · #3 (**permalink**) 10-17-2007, 09:22 PM

That's normal to be anxious because you haven't experienced it before, you don't know what to expect. Motherhood is a wonderful thing. Believe me, once you hold your baby in your arms, you'll forget all about that! You'll still have some anxiety, but truck-loads of joy to go with it!!

2Joeys · #4 (**permalink**) 10-18-2007, 09:11 AM

Aww, Amanda that is very normal and I think every new Mum feels that way. I remember those moments of feeling panic too before my first was born. It's really the fear of the unknown. I felt similiarly before my second too because I didn't know how I'd handle two little ones.

It's so ok to feel that way, but don't let yourself get too worked up. Just know that when your precious little one is here that you will do great and those instincts will kick in straight away.

Constance_13 · #5 (**permalink**) 10-18-2007, 08:27 PM

Thank you everyone for all your support!!!!

I think the extra stress lately is making things that much harder and it makes my mind thing CRAZY stuff.

BUT its nice to hear most of its nomral.