hey everyone ive been posting on TTC1 but this is one is more bout my man!!
Anyways my man had his appointment at the hospital last night, they were a WASTE OF TIME..
basically my man cant ejaculate during sex and the doc said he thought it was all in his head becoz his ex had an eptopic pregnancy years ago and that hes got a fear of getting me pregnant..
so the doc just suggested that we enjoy sex and just see what happens and if in 12months nothing has changed then he will look deep into the medical side of the problem.... 12MONTHS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WOT??
my man is older than me and im worried that i cud be with him for years and never have kids becoz of this problem and then it will be too late to even think about them... i dunno if i wonna be with someone who cant give me somthing thats so important to me.. kids!! im not saying we need them rite away but im jus worried that i cud spend years with my guy then hes not able to give me children and il have to meet someone else n start all over again..
sorry im jus really stressed and upset bout everything, just dunno wot to do.t
thanx x

I would totally see another doctor....My dh and I have 3 kids and we where going to try for another, but for over a year now, he cant ejaculate either....It's got a name, but I can't remember..but the sperm go into their bladder..they can check the urine for sperm...They give them some kind of meds that used for sinus purposes....If I see you checked this reply, I'll get you the name of the diagnosis and the meds he was put on......On a negative, the pills didn't work, but he didn't really give them much of a chance....the next step would be a type of surgery....Good luck, and go see another dr.......All in his head...that's just crazy!

It is called retrograde ejaculation . . . they can often help reverse it, and they can do IUI to work around the problem.

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Besides the medical side of things, I worry that maybe you need to talk with him about your need for children. Sometimes (as in our case) there are no options for sperm and you have to look further at other options. We are currently awaiting our second child using donor sperm. But a child doesn't make the world better. You need to have a solid foundation on which you can persue the challenge together. What I'm saying is you both need to be committed to this and be a team. I worry as you stated that you may not be able to stay with him if he cannot complete the goal of giving you children. He may not be able to but he may be the worlds best father and partner to the children you raise together. That is the ultimate goal right? To raise children together? Are you both on the same page as to where you are okay with the children comming from?

I don't mean to be preachy, I've just been through the medical wringer with my DH and if we hadn't been honest about our wants and desires for children, I don't beleive we would have gotten the wonderfull outcome we have. I beg you to do some soul searching and discussion with him and then get a second opinion.

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