Hi Newbie Here...

BabyBlueEyes · #1 (**permalink**) 08-04-2006, 09:59 PM

Hi everyone...I am officially part of this group so I hope you all have lots of answers as I'm new at this...We just got dh's first s/a results today...not good...we have been ttc for 4 years, we split up at one point when we were dating and I got preg with someone else on a 1 night stand but we got back together and he adopted our daughter... and dh and his ex wife couldnt get preg either they were together 4 years unprotected...so we figured something was up...but never imagined what I learned today...

I dont have the paper right here in front of me but the dr called me with the results...he said there weren't ANY sperm at all in the semen. I dont understand and I dont get it...not one, not dead, not abnormal, NOTHING...he said this was not a common thing but that dh will never have a biological child. I'm so lost with words and I havent even been able to tell dh yet (he's still at work) and to be honest I have already chickened out and told him he had to call to get the results...he is going to be so crushed, I had to beg him to do this s/a as it was and now I feel awful for making him go through with it...I'm in desperate need for help and guidance here...I dont even know where to start or what to do at this point...do I just totally give up??? I mean the way the dr made it sound was that there was no chance ever and he was so nonchelaunt about it I started crying...I just dont understand...how did all your dh's handle it? I'm so terrified of telling him and him knowing...it's going to kill him...please please help me

Zucchini · #2 (**permalink**) 08-05-2006, 09:32 AM

There is a couple on this board who where able to do a IVF with ICSI using a testicular biopsy. Just like in your case, there were 0 sperm in the ejaculate. They were able to retreive some sperm from one of the testicles to use for their IVF (and it worked!). In fact they just had their baby not too long ago. This *might* be an option for you or at least one you should discuss with your urologist or Reproductive endocrinologist.

Has your DH had any problems in childhood? Maybe an unrepaired hernia? anything?

SmittyJr · #3 (**permalink**) 08-06-2006, 03:56 PM

I agree. IVF with ICSI might be a good option (with the testicular biopsy).

Yes, your DH has an uncommon issue, but there might a solution. I would schedule an appt with a Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE).

My advise is to be supportive of your DH. This is going to be hard for him to take in. They way I approached our issues, was as OUR issues. Let him know you stand bu him 100%!

and let us know what you plan to do. This is kind of a quiet board and you might find good support on the IVF board or somewhere around this forum.

AkaMsPris · #4 (**permalink**) 08-06-2006, 09:32 PM

Hey there.....I wanted to let you know that you are not alone...there are a lot of wonderful caring gals on these boards with lot's of info and help....Here is mine and DH's story....not sure if you will be able to relate....I hope that it helps....Feel free to ask me any ?'s...I will do my best to help!!!

(I posted this on another thread and copied it here....)

........ My dh had a sa of 0...nothing nada...we then found out it was due to a syndrome called Kliensfelter syndrome....It took us 2 years of dr's telling us that if I would just lose weight that we would get pregnant...then we find out we can not get prgnant due to mf if....and TRUST me there is not much out there on this syndrom...Did your dh have geneic testing? that is the only way to find this particular syndrom...it is an extra x chromesome(sp?) males are usually xy females are xx well my dh is xxy...and for some reason that has other side effects but the main one is infertillity....men are born with this condition but usually do not find out they have it until tring to concieve.....

I hope that I am way off...and this is not an issue for you but I just wanted to post about it because there is not much info out there on this...and it occurs in 1 out of 500 men with infertillity. When you think about it...there should be more info if it is that many men!!!!

Some other things to look for are....Unable to grow facial hair...pear shaped body...bigger belly...low or no testosterone...have you dr check that if you think that this sounds like your dh.

If not I do not mean to worry you but like I said it took us 2 years of really tring to getpregnant to find this out then a while to find a dr that knew how to treat him well that is another story in its self!!! I just want to help someone..and keep them from going threw what we did ..if I can.

Best wishes in your fertillity travels!!!

lgrimaldi · #5 (**permalink**) 08-09-2006, 07:25 AM

I am so sorry :Big Hug Sad but there is HOPE!!

crossingfingers · #6 (**permalink**) 08-13-2006, 06:51 PM

I cried when i read your post - it is almost my story.

I was told my DH had a ZERO count. We, well he did the surgery
(i just took care of the poor guy after) - no sperm there.

We have moved on to donor sperm and had 4 failed IUI. We are
considering IVF and adoption.

I dont have any wise words. Everyday since I got "THE CALL" and
had to tell my DH - life has changed. We are a stronger
couple - thank God. But every pregnant woman I see... Every
Dad pushing a stroller... I still get a twinge of anger, jealously...
and about 500 other emotions.

I have found some peace with a close friend of mine that has IF
issues and reading the message boards.

Keep the faith!! You are starting a crazy and wild ride - just hold on!!

byrdnest · #7 (**permalink**) 08-31-2006, 12:35 PM

Hi,

I just wanted to respond to your post, because there is hope. My DH had a hernia repair as a child and they apparently didn't put things back where they belonged, because he had a big fat 0 sperm in his ejaculate as well.
We now have a Miracle Baby Girl via God & ICSI. If you have any questions please feel free to ask me, I can tell you about our situation.

But honey don't give up!

Take care

danni