What do you teach your kids about masturbation? - Page 2

Emaline · #9 (**permalink**) 02-08-2007, 01:12 PM

She just said it was one of the reasons.

MissingMinnesota · #10 (**permalink**) 02-08-2007, 01:16 PM

Originally Posted by momof4boys

We had this come up with our oldest. I think it's disgusting, but as long as it's done in private and I don't know about it, I don't really care. However, the problem we had with our son was he was tearing out pictures in parenting magazines and childrens books to "help" him. He went way past playing with himself, which is one reason we don't have him in our home anymore.

He was looking at pictures of small children?

jacie · #11 (**permalink**) 02-08-2007, 01:19 PM

Originally Posted by Emaline

She just said it was one of the reasons.

Yes, well I was curious, that's all.

My mother's brother was mentally disabled. As he got older it became increasingly difficult for my grandmother to care for him. She also had an issue with masturbation. He would also take his clothes off sometimes, and my grandma could not handle him. He eventually went into a group home, which he liked a lot.

I was just wondering if she had a similar story.

veiledexpressions · #12 (**permalink**) 02-08-2007, 03:52 PM

I want my children to have a healthy view of sexuality. I don't want them to think it's disgusting. I think it's natural. And, I've also heard that women who do, are much better in bed with their husbands. You know what you like, and you can help him help you. They're not the ones described as "frigid"

That being said, I want to make sure they know it's something private. I don't want to see it (well, when they're older, can't help but see the grab when I change my 1.5 year old's diaper lol).

jacie · #13 (**permalink**) 02-08-2007, 05:15 PM

Originally Posted by veiledexpressions

And, I've also heard that women who do, are much better in bed with their husbands. You know what you like, and you can help him help you. They're not the ones described as "frigid"

My husband would likely agree with that statement :-).

adamsmommy · #14 (**permalink**) 02-08-2007, 05:25 PM

Why would you think its disgusting? Its VERY natural. Do you not get horny? Better to pleasure yourself then to go and find some random guy/girl to do it. I, personally wouldn't want to know if my child, dh, or whoever is doing it, BUT I would never never tell them it was disgusting. Why shame them?

jacie · #15 (**permalink**) 02-08-2007, 05:39 PM

I relate it to having a bowel movement.

Completely natural.

Not at all gross when you are alone doing it.

Quite satisfying.

But not something that should be shared with others.

W Party of 5 · #16 (**permalink**) 02-08-2007, 06:10 PM

Originally Posted by jacie

I relate it to having a bowel movement.

Completely natural.

Not at all gross when you are alone doing it.

Quite satisfying.

But not something that should be shared with others.

*Checks to see if there is a rip in the time/space continuum* Holy frick, I agree with Jacie

- with one small quibble - it can be shared with others as long as the 'others' are persons you are in a sexual relationship with - some partners find it a real turn on to watch their SO pleasuring themselves.

As for Kim finding it disgusting - well, I guess it's her right to do so and to express it, just as much as it is our right to find it ok, and voice that we find it ok/pleasurable. Not entirely sure I'd agree with her telling the kid it's disgusting, but for her to voice her PERSONAL view on how she feels about masturbation, on an open forum like this - not gonna jump her shiite for it.