Doesn't bother me in the least. But then, I guess it's not technically cheating if he knows I don't mind. I don't believe in long-term monogamy.

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If my husband had had an affair or one night stand years ago I'd rather not know... ignorence is bliss.

If I found out he was having an affair, I'd be so heartbroken and devestated but I'd forgive him as I love him. I'd forgive him just the once.

Some people learn from their mistakes, some men/women are unfaithful a lot. I think one mistake is bad enough but several is unacceptable!

To my knowledge my husband has never had a one night stand or an affair.

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I would not be able to forgive my dh if he cheated. Every time we would have sex I would feel disgusted that he's been with somebody else. Eww.

I'm not sure what I would do.

Before kids- he would be out on his a$$ no questions asked

Since having kids- I think I would like to try to make it work but it would really depend on the "circumstances".

If I found out from someone else I don't think I could forgive him. I would not only be dealing w/ the cheating thing but also the humiliation of everyone else knowing before me...and is he going to stop only because he got caught.

If he came to tell me what had happened...expressed remorse...swore never to do it again...I would try to make it work. Unfortunately I'm not so sure how well I could handle every having sex with him again knowing what I know. The trust thing might never completely come back, and he would have to agree to the fact that his a$$ is mine and must earn my trust back on my terms or it would be over.

In an ideal world: if he did it once, swore to himself never to do it again (and didn't)...I would prefer to live in blissful ignorance.

Unfortunately we don't live in a perfect world.

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Allison (11/02) & Leah (04/05)

I've thought about this kind of thing actually. Before I met S/O, I always thought that if a guy cheated on me, he'd be outta here! I'd have his clothes out in the street, smashing up a car.

The feeling is so different when you fall in love. I can't imagine losing S/O so if he ever cheated, I don't know what I'd do. I can only imagine what my reaction would be. If he had cheated, I'd want him to tell me because at least he's being honest and upfront. I'd be well p----d off if I'd found out from someone else. If it had been a one-night thing, I'd probably want to sit down and talk to him about what it means and what it meant to him, Is there something going wrong in our relationship?, etc. If I found out he had been having an affair, I'd probably leave him. I imagine that there would always be that thought at the back of my mind, "Is he seeing someone else?" even if he wasn't. It would always be there. I don't think I could live with that and wouldn't really be able to trust him fully again.

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If my DH cheated, I would leave and never look back. That is one thing that is unforgivable to me.

I agree that is the one thing that is not forgivable. Trust is a very important thing to me and that breaks all trust and I would never be able to trust my s/o again.

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I believe that it is completely unacceptable. Honestly I cheated on all my boyfirends inhigh school, even with their friends and even ended up seeing on ex bf brother, but I blame it on immaturity. Once I was in my 20's I never did that stuff again. You have to grow up and have those experiences. But now at my age if dh ever cheated Iwould easily divorce, I have an education, money and family support so I have no reason to stay.

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Danielle (27) Loving mom to Austin born January 7th 2006