The details wouldn't matter. Divorce, plain and simple.

If he wanted to start a new relationship with me, and *I* felt like it, I might try it. After the divorce, of course, but him having an affair would make him somebody I don't know, and I don't marry or stay married to strangers.

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Dear Jacquie,
You were right about everything.
-Jacie

Jacquie, that is well said.

I know that once my initial hurt and shock passed, when the kids dad cheated on me, I wanted things to be 'ok' and back to normal. I wanted to think it would all work out. But I realized that no matter what, I would always wonder what he was up to, and I would always remember the level of disrespect he had for me that let him feel it was 'ok' to cheat.

I dont think I could ever rebuild a relationship with a cheater.

And an ongoing affair? HAH! I would NEVER want to see that loser's face again. Death by disassociation.

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One time I could forgive, but not a second time.

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No if ands OR buts....if dh cheated it would be over with in a heartbeat. Same goes if I were the cheater.

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I'd rather hear it from him than from an outside source. It's always humiliating to be the last to know. There is no excuse and though I do believe people can change, one thing is for sure -- for the cheater to earn back that trust will take a long time. It's quite funny how some try to turn it around on you like it's your fault. I'm not yet married, but I do know what it's like to be cheated on. There was nothing I could do to make them pay, but I am a firm believer that what goes around comes around.

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I'm not sure. I think it's hard to say without being in that situation. I do think there is a difference in cheating once and telling about it, and someone who carries on an affair behind your back. I think I would rather have my DH tell me about it, rather than someone else, and I do think that would make a difference. I would probably forgive, but that doesn't mean I would be able to trust him, maybe never being able to trust him, but I would probably stick it out if I could.

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I would honesly rather be blissfully ignorant. If I had to find out I would prefer it come from him. I can't really say what I would do unless I was in the situation--it is a hard one to speculate on, especially now that we have a child.

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If my husband were to cheat and HE was the one who told me because of a guilty conscience/wanting to make things right motive- i'd forgive him and move on. If it was something done on a regular basis and he wasn't feeling guilty then it would likely end our marriage

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Expecting #6 on June 28th 2007