Long story short...

A patient came into the office I work at today to have her teeth cleaned, when they were done the hygenist asked her how her kids were doing, her response was that her future DIL wants to go to medical school to be a dentist.

Apparently this is a problem for her, when the hygenist asked why she said and I quote: "She really loves children and plans on having them with my son; no grandchild of mine is going to be raised by someone else while she's at work all day, and quite honestly, I hope she doesn't get accepted into medical school and stays at home". WTF?

I was shocked to say the least...and extremely pissed off considering I'm one of those awful moms that work.

Why is daycare such taboo?

Is it really wrong for people to choose(I'm not talking about people that have to work) to have a career and have kids?

I am one of the people who chose to quit work and stay home, after he was in day care for about 6 months. While day care wasn't best *for us*, there are some benefits that he's missing out on now. I know that interaction with other kids at this age isn't critical, but it's going to be important pretty soon. Also, they have a lot more toys and activities, and it's generally a safer environment. I also still call his former teachers when I need advice about feeding (they've got lots of experience, and I just can't bug my ped for every little thing). I spend half of my time pulling him away from the dog food. I don't regret my choice to stay home, as there are certainly benefits to that, but I think that, if there's a choice, the parents should make the best choice for the family. I also can't believe that woman would make such a comment when she couldn't know what were the situations of the people around her.

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I was very ticked off because of that but put it off as pure ignorance, but then I got more ticked when she said she hopes that her future DIL doesn't get accepted into any medical school ....I hope for this girls sake, if she does marry her son, they move far far away. From what I understand her older kids do live far far away. Can't imagine why.

I just don't see why some people view daycare as a bad thing, in my experience daycare has been a very positive experience for my son...granted there are daycares that are God awful but you have to do some homework.

I also don't get why a woman would not want to see another woman excel at a dream career, that seemed strange to me.

I'm with you, Gab. I'm one of those awful working moms too. I've cut back my hours and made plenty of other sacrifices, but I can't (financially) and won't leave my career. Day care has been a really positive experience for us.

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Jessica 34
DH 42
Darling Niece 14
Big girl S. born August 28, 2003
Expecting in January 2007!

Wow that lady sounds just brilliant Poor future DIL. I hope she knows what she's getting in to.

I, personally, am a SAHM. But what's right for my family isn't nessessarily right for everyone.

I don't thinks she does, I'll light a candle and pray for her.

I think it's a little of what you describe, and a total feeling of disdain for her dil. "No grandchild of mine" crap would send me running for the hills and a formal disowning of said douchebag MIL.

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I think it's pretty sad.

I am a SAHM and I do not think daycare is a bad thing. In fact I am trying desperately to get my youngest socialization with play groups and where I live it is not working out too well. I may just put him in daycare for a day or two a week so he can be around other children.