This post is not in regards to legal imbalances (which are preposterous) between mothers and fathers but social inequalities.

I am sick and tired of hearing about the poor single mothers out there. Poor women who get automatic custody (at least where I live) and then think the father has to give them all their money (have actually heard women flip out if the child's dad should, heaven forbid, buy himself something). Even though a lot of the time she takes the child support and spends it on herself.

The guy has no chance of getting custody and must settle for weekend visitation (and then gets chastised for being a "weekend father" even though he has no say in the matter).

Poor women.

On top of that, the women usually call the guy all kinds of names (sperm donor being at the top of the list) but the man is apparently supposed to kiss the woman's *** for the rest of his life just because she is the mother of his child (why does this not go both ways?).

Now, this is not always the case. There are plenty of wonderful mothers out there that do right by their kids.

There are just too many of the others....

I am sure to get a lot of flack for this post.

:-)

This is my opinion.

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Sorry Gab, had to do it.

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Nicole

Bring it on.

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Flak.

nah, totally not worth it. Besides I'm too busy nak'ing and ignoring the needs of my dh to do so.

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Nicole

That's it?

I would imagine most of the single mothers out there would not switch places with the fathers. I know plenty of fathers who would do anything to switch places with the mothers.

So, who is worse off?

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Maybe because there aren't too many stories out there about father's doing everything in their power to see and be involved in their children's lives.
Never giving up no matter the circumstances.

I'm sorry, I just have a hard time feeling sorry for your dh if he quit trying for even a second.

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let alone 6-8 YEARS. He wants to move forward, see his child and say forget the past. However when the ex mentions getting together to sort things out, she is not moving forward.

For the record, I now agree with the others about the no coffee. I don't think these two "parents" (and I use that term lightly on BOTH of their behalfs given the stories) should talk alone about it. They need counselors and lawyers present.

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