What do you guys think of parents who choose to work? They continue to have children only to go back to work. Do you think this is right? Do you think that they are being selfish? Again, this is for people who choose to have children and work.

My opinion, I don't see anything wrong with a professional person or a person that enjoys to work to have children..everyone should be able to have babies..but i do worry about it getting out of hand..i mean having kid after kid and then just leaving them. I guess some can find a good balance but really, do the kids suffer? What do you think?

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I guess it could get out of hand just like having kid after kid and the father having to take extra jobs to support the family, right? There has to be a balance, right? Do the kids suffer from dad not being around much?

Besides, is there really any difference according to you between a parent that has one kid, goes back to work and "leaving him/her" and a parent doing this with 3 kids? When you say leaving them, do you mean abandonment?

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DING DONG THE BIATCH IS DEAD!!!

I have no problem with people having kids and working-as long as there's a work/family balance. What I detest is seeing a mother and father both working full-time or more than full-time, just to support their material needs (although wants better describes what I mean). Sure, they can have their huge homes and their two SUVs in the garage, but all of that really means nothing to a child who is craving attention.

I myself will be going back to work part-time. I think that will be a good balance for my family. My husband and I figured out before we had our daughter how this all would work. We knew that we could afford to do it the way we are, and I'm sure it's going to work out just fine. It would be very difficult to get back into my field of work if I left it now, so although I would love to be a SAHM, it would not be a very logical decision for us.

Honestly, whatever floats your boat. If the kids are fed, clothed and feel loved by their parents, that's all that should matter. I just have no respect for couples that are never home for their kids so that they can have all the latest toys and gadgets.

I don't have time to work or stay at home with the friggin' little anklebiters. I just joined a club of potsmoking bungee jumping mommas, and we just duct tape the little brats to their beds and leave and go bungee jumping all over the place.


Oh and Micheal Jackson is a faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahreak.

I have five and have always been a working mom, so I suppose you're talking about me.

To be honest, this is one of those tired old debates where we pit mother against mother. I'm sure it's worthy of continuing the dialog, but it does tend to wear me out feeling the need to defend myself.

Here are some things that occur to me:

~ Whether a mom 'wants' to work or 'needs' to work, the net effect on the child is generally the same. In fact, the mother who 'wants' to work might be more career oriented, which may mean she has a higher earning potential, which means she can afford BETTER daycare, which means her kid might be in a BETTER position than the mother who might be working just to keep the lights on. And yet they are both judged differently.

~As long as I am able to support my family, meeting all of their emotional and physical needs, what should anyone else care how I do it?

~Not sure that 2 people working 2 jobs is in anyway worse than 1 person working 2 jobs and the other working 0. I mean, in my model, the kids get to see - on a daily basis - a working model of a marriage, cooperation, give and take, a male who does laundry and cooks and does dishes when needed.

~While there are many positives in Stay-at-Home-Parenting, there are also positives to being a working role-model. My children tend to be more self-sufficient and independent than some SAH parents' kids. Stuff like that. Not saying that this is universally true- there are probably many kids of SAH parents who are self-sufficient and independent and many kids of working parents who are neither. Still, it is a positive effect that I've observed.

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I could just jump up and clap now. Excellent point! I'm jealous I didn't post that LOL

I see you still have "issues" with my other post. My husband thanks you (he has read the other post) and is very surprised that most are caring about him and not about the children. He doesn't understand why him wanting the mother of his children to raise them and him doing what he has to do in order for this to happen bothers so many people. I told him it surprised me too, but what can you do. Not everyone thinks the same of their children. It makes us even more proud that we are doing what is best for them. I suggest you try to deal with the issue that you have about my dh, if that's at all possible, and try to debate the post that i just posted.

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Linda i'm new here and was not talking about you. I bought this up from a response i got in the other thread that i started. Please don't take it that i was talking about you. You have beautiful children and I don't see it wrong to want to work and have children. I do agree with you about what children see on a daily basis. They value hard work and not just thinking that money grows on trees. Anyway please don't think i'm singling you out. I don't do that.

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