when did your doctor's say it was ok to cycle again. this will only be a FET for me. i have had one cycle since my miscarriage. can i start next AF? i take meds starting day 1. or wait another month? i'll probably wait for the emotional part but wondered if i "could" start if i changed my mind?

this loss was tough . . . IVF #8 will most likely be my last. i can't do it anymore . . for a miracle.

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Rachelle

TTC #1 from Jan 2002 to July 2005, Miscarriage 2/3/03- 1st Angel
1st 3 tries on injectibles/IUI - FAILED
IVF #1 #2, and #3 4/04, 8/04, 10/04 -FAILED
IVF #4 5/05 - FAILED donor eggs (transferred 2- 8 cell)
IVF #5 7/05 DEFET- SUCCESS (10, 9, 4, 2 cell) Shelly Marie born 3/28/06

IVF #6 DEIVF 7/07 FAILED (2- 8 cell) Betas 16.9 and 13 -Chemical
IVF #7 DEFET -11/07 (10, 8, 7, 4 cell) 12dp3dt beta 187, 14dp3dt beta 490, Miscarriage 12/17/07 2nd angel
IVF #8 DEFET 4/2/08 - (9, 9, 4 cell) 13dp3dt beta 203, 15dp3dt Beta 456. Miscarriage 5/12/08 -3rd angel

Done TTCing.
Signed with an adoption attorney and home study provider August 2008 . . lots more work to do. Working on home study right now

Hey Rachelle,

Believe me, I know what you're going through. A loss is unbearably hard to handle and even though it does get easier with time, you never quite get that piece of your soul back. Hang in there, Rachelle.

After my 1st loss, my RE let me cycle again after 1 full cycle break so by my 2nd AF, I was ready to go back to IUIs (I hadn't moved onto IVF at this point). After my 2nd loss, (with my current RE) it took FOREVER for AF to return after my D&C. I was being held up because of all the testing she was doing anyway, but by the time all of my results came back, I just had to wait for AF and I was ready for IVF round #2.

I think you'll be physically ready to go soon. I think that once I got started on my 2nd cycle, it made me feel better becuase I was holding hope that I was going to have another chance. I hope the same becomes true for you.

I wish you ALL the luck with your cycle!! I feel it in my bones this is going to be the one that brings Shelly a sibling!!

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Me (35) & DH (30)
TTC#1 for 3 years
5 IUIs (7/05 - 2/06) Angel lost at 8wks (12/06)
IVF#1 (9/07) - Low Beta - Angel lost at 6wks
IVF #2 (2/08) - Ectopic - Angel lost at 8 weeks
FET#1 (4/08)
IVF#3 (6/08) Tx cancelled due to poor lining
13 Embies on Ice
FET#2 (8/08) Tx cancelled due to poor lining...AGAIN
Another attempt @ FET #2 (9/08) apparently skipped town - Back on BCP

I am delurking to answer this. I am so sorry for your losses. Shelly is beautiful.

I had a miscarriage in March of 04. My RE told me he wanted me to wait 90 days. I don't remember his reasoning. I do remember that part of it was becasue we did an some additional testing during that time. Anyway...I waited 8 mos total but the next IVF brought me my DD and then I had another IVF that brought me my DS right after that. During the 8 mos I was anxious to get started again but hind sight I am really glad I took my time.

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Mona
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Married to DH 1/29/2000 DD born 06/30/05 DS born 05/20/07

MY RE advised atleast 1 cycle, but up to 3.
I guess it is really up to you!
Wishing you much luck!

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I would say its probably up to you Rachelle, I know how emotionally trying a loss can be. SO I say when you feel up to it...GO FOR IT!! I just know it is going to be the one!!!

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Stacie
DS~Jake
DS~Elijah

With both of my miscarriages, my doctor made me wait until I had a period. It was pretty quick with my natural miscarriage, but when I had my d&c, it took forever AF to come again.

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Can't offer you any help - just wanted to say I'm sorry for your loss and hope that you find the right time and you get the bfp!

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I can't give you any advice on this. But, I wanted to remind you that I am here thinking of you. And I'll be here when you are ready to cycle again. Sending you peace and

~M

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