talks about nothing but her child all of the time. A child that was a total surprise and now she adores it but is having issues since she was just dumped with a family all at once rather than starting slow and getting used to the guy (not husband yet) and "inlaws" and stuff? I was incredibly interested throughout her pregnancy and happy when she had the baby but now i am getting outright angry and depressed. I know it isn't her fault. She doesnt know that I have been unsuccesfully trying with my husband for a year now.
I don't really feel comfortable telling anyone in my real life about the issue but i feel like i'm going to explode. The holidays are really hitting me hard with this now.
thank you for letting me vent.

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I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this.
Sometimes life seems very unfair.
I just always put my faith in God when times are tough.
He knows that we feel frustrated and he will
come through for us. Some of us just need
to work harder at our goals with God's help.
I think that the best thing for you to do is to
be honest with your friend. I know you don't want
to tell anyone but, if you sit down and explain your fertility
issues to her she can be supportive to you.
She probally just does not know what you are
going through. I bet it would be best for your
friendship if you could talk to her about what's
going on.
As hard as it is, you have to stay positive because,
your fertility depends on it. Try to excercise if, you don't
already. That can really enhance fertility. Are you
taking any herbs? I started excercising this cycle and
I am pretty sure I'm gonna get a bfp. I've been trying
for 4 years this time. I am positive the excercise helped.
I know it sounds wierd but, it increases blood flow along,
with baby asprin.
I really know how you feel. I have plenty of girlfirends that
have gotten pg the first try. But, I just will not allow
myself to have hard feelings about it. It is hard, but
I just force myself. I just pray and focus on positive
energy.
Have you ever thought of trying soy?
A lot of women on the FF boards are getting pg the
first try with soy. Go there and read all about it.
You take it like clomid. Days 3-7 or 5-9. It works
like clomid does but, its easier on the body.
I am totally here for you if you want to talk.
Here is my e-mail. batzny@cox.net
Take care sweetie!

You can do this!

Thank you. It is so comforting to know that I"m not the only one who struggles like this. I did excersize alot and then month after month i'd get really tired and think "this is it" and let my self relax, and then i got depressed (literally) and stopped exercising altogether for a while. Now I'm pretty lazy about it and only get to the gym once or twice a week. I know i should go more often. I will try to be more concious of that. I will have to look into what you are saying about soy. I get a decent amount of soy just because i am vegetarian, but i probably dont really get as much of it as i think i do (I always think I eat healthier then i really do). well, good news is it's the weekend and i will be pretty busy and i am off monday so that is good too. I'll have to think more about telling my friend. We worked together and are closer through email then in person really.

Daisy,

I am so sorry you are struggling with IF. As hard as it might be, even if you are not so close with your friend, if she is constantly sharing her "good news" with you and it hurts you, you need to let her know so she can at least reel it in. Even if you just say something like "I am so happy that things are going well with <insert child's name here.> I do want to share something personal with you though...my husband and I are currently struggling to get pregnant, and while I love to hear about how great things are going, sometimes it is hard for me to hear you talk about <child> because I want one so bad myself. I don't want you to feel bad or stop talking about <child> at all, but please understand that this is something difficult for me and I can get very sensitive about it." Then if she jumps in and apologizes or offers help or advice or the dreaded "words of wisdom" you can just say that you appreciate her consideration for your feelings, that it's not necessary for her to be apologetic or offer help, that you just wanted her to be aware of your difficult personal position. Something like that.

Again, I am so sorry you are stuck in this struggle. I was there myself for 3 years and it's awful. Good luck, I hope you find success soon.

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DSS Marcus July 95
TTC 31 months, several months on clomid,
5 IUIs,
2 IVFs,
IVF # 2 successful in June 02,
Keegan born March 03.
Drake born December 04 conceived naturally (IMAGINE THAT!?!?)
Newbie: TTC 13 months
2 FETs (BFN), IVF #1 (BFN), IVF #2 BFP Nov 07, miscarried Dec 07, 3rd FET +++ all is going well!

Daisy,

I am so sorry you are struggling with IF. As hard as it might be, even if you are not so close with your friend, if she is constantly sharing her "good news" with you and it hurts you, you need to let her know so she can at least reel it in. Even if you just say something like "I am so happy that things are going well with <insert child's name here.> I do want to share something personal with you though...my husband and I are currently struggling to get pregnant, and while I love to hear about how great things are going, sometimes it is hard for me to hear you talk about <child> because I want one so bad myself. I don't want you to feel bad or stop talking about <child> at all, but please understand that this is something difficult for me and I can get very sensitive about it." Then if she jumps in and apologizes or offers help or advice or the dreaded "words of wisdom" you can just say that you appreciate her consideration for your feelings, that it's not necessary for her to be apologetic or offer help, that you just wanted her to be aware of your difficult personal position. Something like that.

Again, I am so sorry you are stuck in this struggle. I was there myself for 3 years and it's awful. Good luck, I hope you find success soon.

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Sue
DSS Marcus July 95
TTC 31 months, several months on clomid,
5 IUIs,
2 IVFs,
IVF # 2 successful in June 02,
Keegan born March 03.
Drake born December 04 conceived naturally (IMAGINE THAT!?!?)
Newbie: TTC 13 months
2 FETs (BFN), IVF #1 (BFN), IVF #2 BFP Nov 07, miscarried Dec 07, 3rd FET +++ all is going well!

Hi Daisy,

I also can understand what you are saying and how hard it is when others have children so easy and it takes us forever. I tried for many years and adopted 2 children and then finally got my last child by a pregnancy. I remember the painful feelings that my husband and I went through waiting for our children. The holidays are the hardest time of all. I also think it would be a good idea for you to tell your friend what you are going through.

Take care,

Bilinda

Be careful with the soy!

Too much can cause infertility. You are only supposed to take it on days 3-7 or 5-9 of your cycle. You take 175 mg at night time.
There are TONS of posts about soy and bfp's.
So many women are even getting a bfp the first cycle of soy.

I am here for you if you need to talk!

You guys are incredible. Thank you.