I just joined this message board yesterday. I am 23, my husband is 24 and we have been married for one month now. I come from a very fertile family, however my husband told me long before we ever married that we might not ever be able to have children. His grandmother took DES back in the day, when it was still legal. While his own mother had 7 kids, one of her fallopian tubes shriveled up and stopped working early on. His aunt gave birth to a developmentally disabled girl. My husband and his brother both have to take testosterone and his sister, estrogen via the pill. As a teenager he wasn't maturing and growing like others his age. Finally his mom took him to the doctor and found out that he would have to take testosterone if he would mature at all. So finally in college he started puberty. One of his testicles still hasn't descended. My husband is convinced he won't ever be able to have children. However, we decided to give it a try anyways, either because we are crazy or we believe in miracles or both. One thing that gives me hope is that his undescended testicles still get a reaction some times when he is turned on, which means it is probably still working in some way. Anyways, he is going in for testing sometime soon for sperm analysis and then we will find out the truth. It is a really hard issue for him, and I know it is really affecting him right now. I just want to be supportive for him. Thanks for listening.

Hi Maridb,

I can understand how hard this must be for your DH but by getting tested, he will know what challenges if any you two face together. Many of the husbands here have sperm count issues so if he does he will not be alone. With IVF and the advances in reproductive medicine, the doctor only needs a few sperm to make a baby. The can actually inject the sperm right into the egg and create an embryo which is transfered back to you.

Keep us posted and I hope you get some really good news soon.

Bilinda

Thanks,
Yeah, we just got married and our lives have been pretty hectic ever since.....we go down every other weekend to visit our in-laws one state away. We just haven't had any spare time to visit the doctor. We are going to try and make that our goal next week. We are just now exploring all of our options. I have been charting for about 3 months now, but I think I have it figured out. This is the first time, however, we have actually tried for a baby. We're going to look at every available option. I'm just glad my husband was finally able to give it a chance - it was a very moving experience for both of us to finally put the matter in God's hands and start trying.