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Hey there ladies,

I'm an 18 year old female (college student) and there's this man who's probably 30 something, possibly even 40 (I'm not exactly sure of his age) who's a neighbor of mine. We live in the same apartment building and is someone that I see every now and then. He's married with kids and trust me, I understand that married man are OFF LIMITS but, I've been thinking that this man may be attracted to me and/or flirting with me. We don't know anything too personal about one another. Not even each others' names but here's why I think he may be attracted to me and/or flirting with me:

• Every time he sees me, he says hi and I know that it's no big deal for neighbors to say hello to one another but this guy will pretty much go out of his way to say hi to me whenever he sees me. For example, he sees me but I don't see him, and he'll still call out something like "Hey girl! How you doing?!" even if I'm like 10 feet away from him. He's always being nice to me and to my dad who I'm really close with and live with. He also stares at me and if/when I catch him staring at me, he won't look away. Instead he'll try to hold eye contact with me. He has actually held eye contact with me longer than you normally would hold eye contact with someone. He always turns to look at me as I was walk past him. Whenever he sees me, he seems to find something to say even if it's silly and unimportant. Sometimes, I can't help but think that he does it to try and grab my attention. Whenever he gets the chance to, he tries to make small talk and when we talk the conversation is pretty much always about me.

• One day, as I was walking outside while he was driving past, he saw me and wouldn't take his eyes off of me until he had driven too far ahead to keep looking. Mind you, I wasn't even wearing anything revealing. Just a fitted t-shirt and jeans. I never wear revealing clothes. Then, another time, I was walking outside with my 8 year old cousin as this guy was parking his car. I glanced over at him quickly when I saw him but, decided to ignore him. He's parking his car but, as he sees me walking past his car, he honks his horn. Whether the honking was just an accident or not, I don't know.

• One time, as I was entering the building, he held the door open for me and as I was walking through the door, he reached over and touched my hair (the part of it that was up by my face) with his hand. I was so shocked, confused, and uncomfortable that I just walked away without saying anything or even looking at him. Then, another time when he and I saw each other we had a small conversation and when our conversation ended he suggested that I give him my email address. This wasn't the first time that he implied that he wanted my email address (he had done it before a couple of years ago, as well).

• A few weeks after that, I was on my way out one morning with my dad. He said good morning to my dad as he greeted him with a handshake and then proceeded to greet me the same way. The difference was that when he shook my hand, he wouldn't stop looking at me, he gave my hand a slight and gentle squeeze, and held my hand a little longer. It felt as if he didn't want to let go of my hand because even after we let go, and I started to walk away, he turned back to look at me until I was out of his sight.
  There was also this time when I was going out and he was across the street from me. He seemed distracted but, as soon as he saw me, he went "oooh" and seemed really happy to see me. His face just seemed to lit up.

• Then, a few weeks after that, we ran into each other at a nearby gas station. I was sitting in the passenger seat of the car I was in, with the window closed as he parked his car right next to the one I was in. He kept looking at me the whole time and even playfully stuck his tongue out at me once. I tried my best to ignore him but, I could just feel his eyes on me the whole time which was just bugging me. Even while he was paying for the stuff he bought, he kept turning to look back at me and he didn't leave till I waved good-bye to him.

• Now, the most recent thing involving him happened a few weeks ago. My dad and I were headed out. So, we're walking down the hallway. This guy was headed in our direction. He saw my dad and greeted him with a handshake, said "hello", how are you doing?". He's shaking my dad's hand and greeting him, but his eyes are on me. It was me that he was looking at. Then, as my father kept walking ahead, this guy just looked at me, gave me a slight smile and reached out for a handshake. The weird part was that he didn't shake my hand. He just stood there looking at me & kind of holding my hand until I pulled it away from him and proceeded to walk away.

This guy actually seems pretty nice and people who know him, like him. Everyone says he's friendly, etc. He's not weird looking or creepy looking. To be honest, I actually think that he doesn't look bad at all for his age. Trust me, I am NOT after him because not only is he older than me and married with kids but, I understand how much it would hurt his wife and family if he ever cheated or did something wrong. I also know that if I were married, I'd be really hurt if my husband went after someone else and/or cheated on me.
The good thing is that I haven't seen him since that last time, but, honestly I believe that I'm bound to see him sooner or later because we're neighbors.

Anyway, I guess what I'm looking for are opinions & advice. What do you guys think - - Is he just being friendly? Or this something else? What do you think his intentions (if any) are?
Opinions and advice are appreciated.
P.S. I apologize for making this post SO long but, I thought this situation would be better to understand if it was explained in detail.