Hey ladies,
Just thought I would stop by. I read posts alot, but dont ever comment about self because I dont want to bring anyone down. But, I'm home by myself and hubby is at work so thought I would vent a lil' if that's ok. Our re-do was in February. Of course it was the VE on one side only. So far we havent seen any sperm under our microscope. I know that it takes longer to return (if it does) when VE is done. But I just turned 30 and was wondering if we shoud go ahead with trying IVF or wait. We went to Church a couple weeks ago and I felt like crap. I was surrounded by young couples and babies. It broke my heart. I know I should be happy for others. And on the down side, me and hubby rotate shifts (a week on days, a week on second, and a week on third). Then we get a 4 day weekend. Is it even possibe for us to go through the IVF process?

For those that are mothers, Happy Mothers Day...

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ME 30, DH 34
DSD 15, DSS 12
VAS-1997
VR#1- 02/22/07'
two SA's (zero)
VR#2- 02/08/08

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Hi hon!
You are right about the VE taking longer to come back. and as far as IVF with rotating shifts, because everything is so pre-planned, you would have a schedule to work by... so could plan in advance to take time off. I beleive that after the transfer you have to be completely mobile for a few days also, so you would need time off work.
Im not sure if with IVf, they would take the sperm and egg at the same time, or if they could take the sperm, freeze it, then the egg... you would have to inquire about that. (or maybe post that question on the ivf board, and there are a few ivf ladies here too )
Dont feel bad about not being happy for those who have children.
You want a baby
With all your heart, and its hard to see others have what you want SOOOO badly.
Totally understandable. Don't be hard on yourself. You are going through an experience that many people can't even fathom... most of the general public is unaware of the issues of infertility.
((hugs))
you are free to come here and vent.

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Don't worry about "bringing everyone down." I have found that everyone on this board is amazingly supportive whether it's good news or bad. Sometimes life just doesn't go the way we plan it and part of staying sane is being able to vent and share. I don't have much to offer in terms of info about VR, VE, or IVF. I had a TR and have been able to get pregnant. I just can't seem to stay pregnant. I have a friend who went to Dr. Silber in St. Louis after her DH's VR didn't work well. He uses a technique to harvest sperm which I think has had a good deal of success. I think there are always options but I do understand feeling like the biological clock is ticking. I'm 34 and currently on a doctor imposed TTC break so I'm trying hard not to feel like my time is running out. Hang in there!

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Andi

Thanks ladies,

I actuallly got a step mothers day card today so it was my first time getting to receive anything like
that. It made me feel good. I guess we should wait a few more months before trying ivf. Just to give us a fair chance to conceive naturally. Im fixn to start work to get out of house a little, may help take mind off of it some.

Have a good week

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ME 30, DH 34
DSD 15, DSS 12
VAS-1997
VR#1- 02/22/07'
two SA's (zero)
VR#2- 02/08/08

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Don't worry about how you feel, you can't help it. Trust me, I know. My bosses wife just had a baby, when she finaly brought him in for us to see, I left and cried the whole way home.It is hard.
As for starting IVF, well a VE can take up to 18 months to start showing sperm, so you are not out of the race just yet!
I did an IVF in December, so if you do have any questions I will be happy to answer the best I can

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married 9 years
Me 32 DH 49
TTC#1
Low Count, ASA's present
IVF 12-07 BFN

That's awesome that your stepkids got you a card. I'm still really close with my stepson from my first marriage. I was married to his dad from when he was 4 until he was 8. Then I watched him on the weekends while his mom worked until he was 12. Ironically, I've become good friends with his mom and now both of our families are really close. (My ex....well, that's another story.) DSS is now 16 and even though we don't live in the same state any more, he still spends a few weeks with us in the summer each year. He was the first person to call me on Mother's Day. He's just a really great kid. Anyway, I know that was WAY off topic. I swear if I don't get to feeling well enough to get out and about soon I'm going to lose my mind!!!

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Andi