Renee

When did you actually start looking pg and not just getting fatter? My belly is getting to the point where it's pooching some but I just feel fat. If I pull my belly up and tight I have a cute little pg belly but no one else can see it. I'm sure I'll be sick of it by the time the 9 months are up but I'm ready to look pg and have people notice. I'm tired of it being a "secret", I can feel my belly getting harder and I think I can actually feel where my uterus is.

One of the girls I work with is very tiny and petite and she's only 9 weeks along and you can already see her pooching. Which I knew would happen since she's so small and this is her 2nd pg (she miscarried the first).

Another question, I really don't think I've gained any weight since my last ob visit. Is that good/bad? And how can the baby be gaining weight and extra fluid be building up but I'm not gaining? I want to gain the least amount possible since I already have a ton to loose after the baby but I want to make sure we're both healthy.

Ok sorry this got so long. Thanks for your answers in advance. By the way...I hope I don't have to wait another 4-5 weeks before I feel the baby move, I'll go crazy!

Aimee

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I hate to tell you this but everyone carries pregnancy differently. My one girlfriend who is also overweight was pregnant at the same time as I was with Gavin. We'd go in places together and people would ask when I was due but never her. She is only about 5'2" and about 300 lbs. I am 5'9" and was 230 when I got pregnant with Gavin. I was 284 when I delivered him though.
This time, I was 229 at my 1st appt and go in on Monday for a 20 week appt, so Iwill update the weight then. But, I was told to try to only gain 5-15 lbs. Dh thinks that is funy that they said that because Gavin was 8lbs 8ozs.
My cousin, also overweight, was told to lose 5 lbs in the first trimester, stay steady in the 2nd and only gain 5 in the 3rd. I think she gained about 50 lbs and delivered a 4lbs baby.
Anyway, all I am trying to say is everyone is different. I can't tell you when you will start to show.
It is fine tha tyou are not gaining right now. I don't think they worry abotu gain until the 3rd trimester. All your nutrients go to the baby first right now and you second, so you are feeding the baby.

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Thanks for trying to answer my question....The doctor never has once told me how much weight I should try to gain. I was actually impressed that he didn't make my weight an issue. Between my 1st and 2nd appt. I gained only 3lbs. I'm going again on Tuesday so I'll be interested in seeing how much I gained this time. I weighed myself at my mom's on Sunday and if I'm remembering correctly I don't think I've gained any weight. Part of me is really happy but then I'm also worried that the baby isn't getting enough.

By the way I must have missed your post about your big u/s. Congratulations on the baby girl! How exciting, the perfect family. Will this be all for you? I still have an other 4 weeks before my u/s, I cannot wait. I just cannot believe how fast the time has gone. April is going to be here before we know it. It's almost scary, I've been around a ton of babies (used to work in a daycare) but I feel like I don't know anything. Oh well, I suppose that's natural to feel that way. Thanks again for answering my questions.

Aimee

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Dh and I knew we were done at 2 regardless of what we had. We discused it before we were married even.

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Everyone's different and every pregnancy is different. But with my First Child I didn't start looking pregnant til around 6 or 7 months. But No one ever walked up to me and asked me when i was due. When I found out i was pregnant I was 198lbs and I was 199 when i delivered. I had terrible morning sickness (all daylong) until i was like 6 months along or so. at 20 weeks we started getting it under control with medicine. I was down to 175lbs. I also had GD and PIH. but 5 days PP i was 176!!! now i'm at 192!! So, like she said everyone's different. one of the women that was due when i was didn't start to show til like8 months i think. Her OB told her she had a long trunk so the baby had tons of room in there before popping out and showing.

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I think they generally say gain 20-25 pounds, but plus size I think we should only gain 15-20 pds. As long as you and your baby are healthy-thats ALL that matters! Good Luck

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