Hey guys sorry i've been MIA for a while but DH and I are having some proublems so i've been at my mom's for about a week now. My chart is all messed up becasue i've not been temping while i've been out there becasue I did't see the point in it becasue now i'm not for sure if I even want to have a baby anymore. I know thats a bad thing but right now with DH I just want to get away from everyting and having a baby would make it so much worse. My mom and dad keep telling me I need to try and work it out with him but I don't know if my hart wants me to or not. Thats why I left becasue my feelings for him changed and they changed a while back but I just couldn't tell him up untill now. Im just really right now and don't know whats going on. I'm sorry I dumped all this on everybody but I just thought everybody would like to know where I have been this week. I come home every now and then to see DH to try and talk about things but it don't always work. I'm going to go now but i'll be back and I guess i'm just going to leave my chart alone and start all over when shows back up but since I don't know when I O'ed I want have a clue when she will be here LOL.

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I am sorry you are going through such a rough time with DH. My DH and I had A LOT of problems the first few years we were married (we both threatened divorce) but we went and got help and worked through our problems. When you first get married, everything seems so great but then real life sets in and things can get tough. Adding infertility to that is a big burden - infertility in itself can cause a lot of friction between partners but adding that to the stress of being newlyweds - YIKES! Hang in there.

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Elizabeth (42) DH (43)

I LOVE MY AUNT PAMMY!!


11/03 Lost Twin
TTC #2 Since 11/04
8/05 - Repronex 150 and btb IUIs
Positive HPT 8/22
9/23/05 - M/C
2/05 - Repronex 225/150 alternating and btb IUIs !!


It's a GIRL!! Born 10/19/06

Shannon,


I'm sorry you're hurting right now. I hope you and your dh can take time for yourselves to sort things out. Best of luck! And we'll be here waiting when you have a chance to update us.

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Im sorry about your situation right now, you and your husband will be in my thoughts and prayers, i pray that everything will work out for the best! Every couple has they're problems, you are not alone. Its just a rough time right now -- Good Luck

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Oh Shannon, I'm so sorry. Even under the best circumstances marriage can be hard. And you've been so stressed because of your IF issues. I don't feel like it's my place to advocate whether you should stay in the relatioship because I don't know know enough about it. But I hope that you are able to find some peace. You may want to put TTC on hold so you can focus on your marriage and get to know yourself and DH with just each other around. Whatever you decide to do, we're here.

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Me -29 DH - 33
Off BC 2/03
10/07 - 4/04, clomid, :BFN
IUI+INJ #1
IUI+INJ #2
IUI+INJ #3: now...

Shannon,

I'm sorry you are going through this hard time. The first years of marriage , even if you lived together before mariage, are hard for everyone. TTC in addition makes it harder. Maybe , you should but your temps onthe shelf for a while and try to find out if you can salvage your marriage or not. As you said bringing a baby into this will only make things worst.

I'm wishing you the best.

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Anick (31) , Luc (33)
Fur baby Cachou
12 cycles of Clomid 50mg, all
Diagnosed with PCOS - Jan.2006
On break for 6 months

I'm sorry things are on the rocks. You haven't even reached your 1st anniversary. Feelings are supposed to change from the sparky love tingling to a safe warm and secure feeling. I'm not sure how your feelings have changed though, but by yoiur chart your sex life seems to be booming, LOL Dh and I don't even do it that much I'm sure you'll be able to work things out, and you can continue on with our life together.

Much love

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Sorry you're going through this. I think you are wise to wait on ttc until you resolve this. Like Lisa said, I don't know enough about your relationship to say that you should stay together but I hope that it is!! Good luck

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Sophia - June 2004
Sarah - April 2006

I soooo understand!!! My dh and I had lived together for 2 years before we got married and the first year was still hell!! LOL!! Then we waited thru five years of marriage before we ttc! And that period of 6-8 months of aggressive ttc was very stressful!!! But I have to say I have a WONDERFUL man!!! Sometimes things are really tough but if you have enough love and patience you can usually work it out! maybe you should take time out and get to know and appreciate each other for a couple of months then try again if things seem to progress in a postive direction!! Best of luck to you!! I'll definetly be thinking about you!

Thank you guys so much for all your warm thoughts and whishes. I moved back home with DH and we are trying to work things out. I've been back home for a few days and things are going better I just hope they keep going this good. Again thanks to everybody for your support and help it's nice to know I have people to talk to when I need it.

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I.m so glad that things are going better for you and DH! You and Dh will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers!

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Thanks for letting us know how you're doing! I'm glad to hear you're back with dh. Good luck resolving the issues, and take care of yourself!

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Shannon,
I've been away for a while so I missed your post, but I'm glad that you and DH are back together. DH and I had our difficulties as well for a while. We had counseling and have learned to really listen to one another. If you can master effective communication, then you will be all the better for it. BTW, at the time we were having problems, we had financial difficulties and could not afford a private counselor. We went to the local university hospital and were able to pay for sessions on a sliding scale according to income. We paid only $10/session..cheap! I'm really glad we hung in there. Way back when, it didn't seem like we were going to work things out, but we did . Good luck and I hope things go well for the two of you .

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