Ahhhhhhhhh

ttcsoon · #1 (**permalink**) 08-09-2005, 11:07 AM

AHHHHHHHHH is how I feel I got a call this morning from a friend who has 2 kids a boy and a girl they are not even a year apart, but she is getting married in Nov and the guy she is with isnt the father to the kids, they were ttc another one, but was having no luck so they gave up, but she was telling everyone she found god and how she was gonna do what was right and no sex until after they are married, well get this the call this morning was to tell me she WAS PG AGAIN! OMG I was like what? And she told me last month one time they couldnt help themselves and gave in and that is how she got pg again. What am I doing wrong? I cant believe it, I was so upset when I heard that being she is a bad mom if you ask me, she has had welfare called on her 4 times already she doesnt deserve another blessing!

loayos · #2 (**permalink**) 08-09-2005, 05:13 PM

I know exactly what you mean!!! I had a similiar experience this week! My husband's brother got divorced a few years ago and they had two girls which neither wanted (they had their first when he was 18 and his ex wife was 16) and they were shipped back and forth numerous times now his 21 yr old girlfriend is pg he's 40!! Why them and not me??? he's already giving up with his first two daughters why should he get more??? UUUGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!

PJ's Mom · #3 (**permalink**) 08-09-2005, 07:53 PM

GIRL - I know what you mean too. I am a teacher and LORD I cannot tell you how many unwanted kids come through my door. Before I had PJ, I was like obsessed with the fact that I desperately wanted a baby and here were all of these losers (forgive me but that is how I felt at the time) having baby after baby after baby. It made life seem so unfair. All I can say is that I appreciate my baby more than anyone could ever know and I feel blessed everyday that I have him and now I feel sorry for those people because they don't get it, kwim?

ttcsoon · #4 (**permalink**) 08-09-2005, 08:11 PM

OMG he had 2 girls doesnt want them and now his 21 yr old is pg what the hell is going on with that?!?! The poor kids suffer than no one else just like the loosers(and most of them are)the kids suffer no one else! That is just terrible, so terrible. Like a girl who used to live above us before we moved here she has 4 kids and 3 of them arent with her they are with their fathers she has the one which she only had because she is with the father and get this I found out I believe 2 wks ago she is pg with her 5th child she is only 20 also. 5 kids at age 20 now there is something wrong there, she wont work she does drugs they lived on the second floor and they left the window open and her kid was about 2 1/2 was hanging out the window no scren on it nothing, why is someone like that blessed and not us? I am getting to think I pissed someone higher up off at some point in my life and this is pay back!

ttcsoon · #5 (**permalink**) 08-10-2005, 06:26 PM

This is Chy and her daddy like a month ago! I sure hope I did this right if I didnt I so need help!!

loayos · #6 (**permalink**) 08-10-2005, 07:09 PM

That's so true!!! Nobody suffers but the children! The sad part about the whole thing is I have one sister she also has PCOS and no children after years of trying! And my husband has two brothers the one described above and another who's wife is not able to conceive either! What is a matter with this picture??? Sometimes I feel the same way like God what did I ever do to not be able to be a mommy or make my wonderful husband a daddy?? And adoption is so damn expensive it's not even a consideration but yet tons of children are just waiting in several different places and situations to be loved!!!!UUGGHHH!!! Anyways now that I've had my whiner session for the night....LOL

ttcsoon · #7 (**permalink**) 08-10-2005, 07:25 PM

I totally understand about the adoption unless your a movie star with a lotta money you cant get in at all. I am really sorry you having probs I mean I am upset and I am already a mother guess I cant complain too much being I am already blessed, I cant even imagine what your feeling at all, I am so sorry. Just seems like life is so unfair at times and its like you have to take it no matter what.

angel_baby1982 · #8 (**permalink**) 08-10-2005, 07:27 PM

I know how you all feel. I'm 23 and DH is 26 we have been married almost a year. We got togather Nov. 9th 2003 and by Jan. of 2004 DH sister was telling us she was PG she was only 20 at the time and she had only been togather with her BF about 2 weeks longer than DH and I had been. She had Phoenix 9 days after DH and I got married. While she was PG the baby's daddy went to jail for his 4th DUI and as soon as he got out he went strait to FL and left her in NC with DH mother. So now she is living with her mommy with the baby who is almost a year old now and she isn't working and letting the state take care of her and Phoenix. It just makes me so mad because DH and I have been ttc since 2 weeks before we got married and we just found out that DH has a low sperm count and thats why we haven't had a baby yet. We want a baby we would love it with all my heart and it's people like his sister and the baby's daddy that really piss me off becasue they didn't even want that baby not to mentchen that his sister got PG when she was 16 and lost that baby. But i'm with ya'll i'm woundering if some point in time in my life or DH (since he has the proublem)that I pissed somebody and this is my punishment.

ttcsoon · #9 (**permalink**) 08-10-2005, 07:40 PM

We need to figure out who we pissed off and make sure we make it up to that person! Its terrible how things go, for a person to get pg and not want the baby I mean my DD Chy was a mistake I was on the pill and I was just 17 but no way in hell will I regreat it or take it back!

I am not sure how to get the pics in my siggy so I am just gonna do this way that way ya all get to see diff ones!! LOL!!

#10 (**permalink**) 08-12-2005, 10:21 PM

Boy, do I ever know what you mean!!

I've been married to DH since July 2000. In the meantime, his youngest brother and his wife have had not one, not two, but three...count 'em, three children! I'm not saying that they aren't great parents, because they are. I'm just saying that I'd really like for karma to spread the wealth a bit. I get so very tired of the questions/comments about "when you two have children..." Bleah!

In addition to that, I teach high school, and can't even begin to tell y'all how many incoming freshman girls are preggers when they walk through the doors for the first time. Meanwhile, DH and I haven't had any success at all in the babymaking department. It's soooooo annoying.

Anyhoo, I thought I'd finally get out of

mode, and join the group in a little bit more visible fashion.

Thanks,
vamplita

TTC#1 - currently on Metformin and Levoxyl - 37 yrs old, DH is 41

ttcsoon · #11 (**permalink**) 08-13-2005, 10:30 AM

Oh man its getting better on my part went to wal mart yesterday and a friend from HS was there her and I havent talked since I got married and had Chy but she had her son who is 18 mos with her and than informed me she was 5 mos pg, I told her congrads because I am so happy for her she has wanted kids for as long as I have known her and she is a great mom but its like a slap in the face, she is only 20 with going to be 2 kids and I have a 4 year old and cant seem to be able to have another one. I am sorry to all of you who cant even have one I was blessed with one and dont know what I would do even if I couldnt have gotten pg with her.

Holly*Berry · #12 (**permalink**) 08-21-2005, 07:32 AM

I'm a foster parent and it get's pretty depressing seeing so many women have baby after baby after baby, only to neglect them or expose them to drugs or let men have their way with them..........it's digusting!

and then there's my Dh and I..we are good parents and loving to our foster children......yet we get BFN's every month!

ttcsoon · #13 (**permalink**) 08-21-2005, 10:01 AM

I am finally getting to accept the fact that I may just be blessd with DD and no other kids. A good friend of the family was telling me when her and her Dh were ttc their 2nd child they were 2 yrs and her dr said to just STOP trying have some fun dont think about it, and 2 mos later she got pg with her son!! So that is what I am trying to do STOP trying lol! Its kinda hard but I am trying!