Last Friday evening, in the course of five minutes, I found out that I was pregnant with twins, one was ectopic and had a heartbeat, the other was intrauterine and did not have a heartbeat. I also found out that this would be my last "natural" pregnancy.

I am beside myself that I no longer have either tube. Both have ruptured from ectopics now.

I am only 29 years old and only have one child. I wanted a much bigger family.

Have any of you experienced this same thing? If so, have you tried IVF? Have you had any success?

We have done one cycle of IVF previously, but it failed.

I'm so sorry to hear about your experience. I had a ruptured ectopic and have had three ectopics since (my sig needs to be updated.) I still do have one tube, but now know that I can't use it...I am supposed to have surgery to have it removed over the summer since it presents such a danger to me. I considered moving on to IVF, but we ended up deciding to forgo ttc and have moved on to adoption. I do know quite a few people who have done IVF with success. The RE I went to see told me that since my "only" IF problem is ectopic pg, that I would be a perfect IVF candidate.

How are you feeling now? I'm sorry you needed to find this board, but there's a great deal of support here...



Karen

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Rikki,

I'm so sorry to hear about this experience. I know it must be heartbreaking to lose 2 babies and your second tube. I haven't had IVF, but I have a beautiful niece and nephew who were the product of IVF.

Please take care of yourself and write as much and as often as you need to. That's what we're here for.

Cindy

I'm so sorry that you have had to go through this. Please talk about this as much as you need to, it sure has helped me. As you can tell, the ladies here are wonderful and will help as much as they can.

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Thank you for your kind words and replies. I have been really struggling the past few days. I lie in bed at night and all I can think is that I am now technically "sterile". My mother can still have babies (techinically), yet at 29, I cannot.
It is so scary. We have been ttc for so many years that if it is all over now, I am not sure who I am supposed to be. If I am not going to be the mother of a large family, who am I supposed to be?

Rikki,

I'm so sorry. I know this is going to be a tough one to over come. You have to grieve a lot more than the loss of your babies. I'm not a councilor by any means, but you're going to have to take the time to come to grips with everything that has happened to you. You certainly are entitled to a lot of time to grieve. Please don't think you are less of a person because you can't have anymore children unassisted. Although I've just met you, I am sure you are a wonderful person and that doesn't change in spite of what has happened. Please take care of yourself and don't let this define you. After a bit you can talk to your doctor about IVF if that is what you decided to do.