Re: Need some input re: TTC #2
Jen, Jackson is gorgeous - what fabulous chubby cheeks and smile, and beautiful blue eyes. Such a happy pic that one! Obviously being able to breast feed him is paying off!
I can totally understand your wanting to continue b/feeding him for as long as possible. I also understand the dilema you are now put in and can imagine you are stressing out about it. Being forced to do IVF treatment earlier than you'd planned for #2 all because of the Insurance change - that is a big stress....and you don't have long to decide! I think you've come up with the best solution under the circumstances. I don't think you are selfish at all. At least this way you can afford the treatment, and will hopefully have a nice big batch of embies on ice for when you are really ready to start on #2. I don't think it is a good idea to have another baby until you and Jackson are ready. (I'm finding caring for an active 20 month boy enough of a challange, can't imagine adding a newborn to that - or even a pg with m/s et!) If you can't continue b/feeding Jackson for as long as you'd have liked, at least you can still chose to give him your undivided attention for longer... (and congrats on being able to b/feed for 8 months, that's about when my Mason weaned himself and I had to start him on bottles of formula) I can only imagine what it is like to have a preemie (my BF has one and I visit the Preemie board regularly) and I'm sure in the back of your mind is the worry of another preemie birth with a toddler to care for also. FET have great success these days, and the precious embies can remain on ice until you have the perfect lining. I also understand what you mean about the temptation to transfer immediately and not freeze all the embies, but that's why weighing up the pros and cons now is a good idea, before you are more emotional due to the IVF treatment hormones! You've dealt with so much already - IVF and a preemie birth (and probably so much more), it's such a pity your company is changing insurance companies and you can't just relax and enjoy finally having a baby without having to stress about how/when to start #2. We've decided after all the years it took to conceive #1, that we won't be trying for #2 - it was a big decision based on many things, but I'd like to think based mostly on Mason himself, and the quality time I can give him. We are sad that Mason will never have a sibling, but for us I really think we've made the right decision. Hopefully some of the other ladies will post, there are a few that are pg with #2 or recently given birth to #2 (& #3!) with #1 still very young. Good luck with whatever you chose..... and please keep visiting us here on this board. It may be a slow board, mostly due to how busy we are with our precious children, but familiar faces from the old TTC and IF and IVF boards keep popping back.
best wishes
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Re: Need some input re: TTC #2
for this long ~ I don't think its selfish to wean him so that he might be able to have a brother or sister someday. He will probably thank you for it someday! My opinion is that you should go ahead and do a cycle, and freeze them all, but you have to make sure that you have that decided 100% before you start ~ then you won't be tempted to do a transfer that you arent ready for. My son Kieran is 8 months old now, and there is NO WAY that I'm ready to be pg again 
, just the thought of it scares the bejeepers out of me! 
