I had posted a few weeks ago about being very confused about what to do with our 12 frozen embryos that we have leftover. So, I decided to make an appointment with our RE with hopes that he would have a clearer picture for us. I'm so glad that we met with him because there are SO many options out there that I had no idea even existed and I feel so much better about making an informed decision!

So, when we make a final decision on whether or not going to try for #3, we have the option of 1) donating them to other couples and they would go into a bank that is available to couples all over the country to adopt, 2) we can do an open adoption with a couple from our clinic, where we would interview families and keep in contact with them, 3) donate them to a privately funded research group, 4) do a compassionate transfer on myself, this is where they would transfer all 12 of them into a part of my uterus where the embryos would not be able to attach themselves to (less than 1% chance of getting pg he says), or 5) discard them.

I would like to try for baby #3 when Cooper & Claire turn 3, but dh is not 100% onboard with that idea. If we don't have another baby, I'm not sure what I want to do, but my dh is pretty convinced that he would like to do an open adoption with someone at our clinic....he thinks that it would be really neat to select a couple and have a relationship with them, in theory I think that it is a great idea, but I don't know how I would handle this emotionally and I probably won't know until I actually went through it.

So, anyhow, I just wanted to give you an update! No matter what choice we make, we are not making it this year....we are going to pay the bill and delay it for atleast 1 more year!!

Thanks for listening!!

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Hi Jen! I think you made a great choice to hold off one more year, and then reasess if you want to add number 3 or not. I know the $ issue was bothering you, but if you still think you might want another one it's a small price to pay as compared to a whole new fresh.

I never realized there were that many choices either, and I'm glad to hear about them. Once this one is born, we will be done and we'll have to decide what to do with the 5 frozens we have left also. I am not sure if my RE does embie adoption or not, I'll have to ask about it. Anyway, thanks for the update. Your kiddos are so stinkin' cute!

Jennifer D

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What a difficult decision to make.
I agree wait one more year before you decide.

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It's nice that you have so many options, but good you don't have to make a decision immediately. I too can't make a decision yet, and have paid for another 6 months storage...

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Wow! That is a lot of information. I think you are making a great decision by delaying it for a year. So much changes.

By the way your kiddos are startling beautiful! Great pictures!

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Kim (32) I forgot my own age.

I think you are wise in waiting another year before deciding what to do. That is a lot of choices to think about.

I'm somewhat relieved that I didn't have any left over embies. I would have a hard time deciding what to do. But then again, it might be easier than another whole IVF cycle. Good luck with your decision.

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Wow Jennifer, its great that your clinic gives you a lot of options. Good luck in your decision.

By the way, Cooper and Claire are sooo cute!

JenM

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Hi Jennifer!
Wow, that's a lot to think about! Good Luck with your decisions!
Copper and Claire are so cute!

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