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Laylasmom+5 · #1 (**permalink**) 10-19-2005, 12:34 PM

I know that I don't know any of you but I need to relate to some people who have gone through this because I am scared....I have NEVER had a loss before and have had three wonderful pregnancies in 4 and 1/2 years I am baffled and confused and also want to be pregnant again as soon as possible is this normal?? I ws due in April and thought naively that after you hit the second trimester that everything will be okay....tommorrow I am having a D&C and am scared maybe I just need some reassurance here is my post from my Due in April board this happened today:
I am so so sad....I have never been through this before and it is devestating....when we went in Jenny (MW) looked for heartones and couldn't find any so we went to the U/S .... I immediatly saw the baby... didn't look as big as I thought it would and she asked how many weeks I was and I said 14 and 1/2 she says the baby is measuring 13 weeks 1 day she was desperatly trying to find the heartbeat but cuoldn't the baby wasn't moving at all either she shook my belly trying to get it to move but I just knew that it wasn't good....she had the Dr. come in to look and after a few mintues he just shook his head no at me the baby was not alive he seems to thiink it was a placental problem my placenta was huge so big you could barely see the baby and he thinks it might have started abruting and there are pockets of fluid under the placenta that are abnormal...they have given me the option of being put into labor~naturally miscarrying or having a D&C which I have opted to do.....I am scared and don't know what to expect the Dr. said that they wil run test on the baby to try and find out what happened...they called the baby a pathology speciman which made me literally SICK...It is so strange I was so excited all morning to hear my babe's HB and now to experience this is heartbreaking..... I go in tommorrow morning at 9:00 and my surgery is at 10:30....ya'll please be thinking of me for some strange reason it is more comforting to me to still have the baby inside I am scared I am going to come apart once it is removed so be praying for me.....