I just looked down and realised it's Luke's birthday in a couple of days, what do you have planned? when is your birthday? Your DH being away a lot has got to be hard on you? I know I hated my DH working in London and only coming home on weekends earlier in the pg. Do you have anyone that maybe able to come and help out if need be?

Unfortunately DH has not been giving me lately, he's a little preoccupied with work When he got home tonight I told him of the contractions and that he should be prepared from now on to be called at short notice. (he goes to work with our neighbour) He then said he would need to drop tony off as he would not have anyway of getting home! I couldnt believe he had said it!!! Who gives a &%@# how Tony gets home, I'll be in hospital having a baby, it just annoyed me to think that his first priority would be to get his friend home!

All I ask him to do is put Christopher to bed each night, he falls asleep with him on our bed and stays sleeping! After going in there 4 times to tell him to get up and put DS in his own bed before he falls off of ours, I have to do it myself. Carry a 2 stone 4 yr old 20 meters into a midsleeper bed, sorry i'm going off at the deep end again! I am just so fed up this week of being around lazy, inconsiderate, incapable, self centered people who cant get their priorities right! Just ignore me, even I think i'm starting to sound over emotional!

Thanks again for all the hugs today they really did help!

Have you thought about names yet?

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Anderson ~ 7th Oct 2005
EDD 8th Nov


Christopher ~ 8th Nov 2001
EDD 9th Dec


Patrick & Dawn ~ Met 24th Jan 1991

It was my birthday yesterday, but I didn't really do much. My mum & dad came over during the day to deliver my card and a couple of presents, but apart from that I was home with Luke who is too young to be making a fuss of Mummy on her birthday. My sister is coming over on Sunday and the MIL is now not coming, so Luke and I will be celebrating then. We're not really having a party for Luke because I don't have the energy to organise one, so it's just family.

I could write a DH rant too right now, so I'm with you on priorities thing. Mine made zero effort for my birthday yesterday which is typical for him, but I still hoped. He did get me a present while he was in Australia the other week, but he gave me that as soon as he got back because he couldn't be bothered to wrap it. He hasn't got me a card (again!) and he got home late from work. He did give Luke his bath and put him to bed, but didn't come down for ages because he was doing some work upstairs. Then he decided that he wasn't hungry, but offered to get me something AFTER he'd dealt with his emails. It was past 8 o'clock by this time and he was still doing stuff for work. I was so angry I just walked out of the room. Of course he was so wrapped up in his emails he didn't notice for ages.

When he's away I miss him loads and can't wait until he gets back, but when he does he is usually tired (like I'm not!) and is so useless for the first few days that I almost wish he'd go away again. He tried to get back in my good books by loading the dishwasher, but he's going to have to work a bit harder than that.

I think his main problem is that he hasn't a clue how hard it is to be pregnant, work part time and look after a toddler with no help. He seems to think everything just stops when he's not there. My mum is great, but I don't like to ask her too much because she already gives up 3 days a week to look after Luke while I work. DH will be around after Christmas though. He has put a "Grounded" note in his diary throughout Jan, Feb and March, so I know he'll be in the country when this baby arrives.

That's partly why he's travelling so much at the moment, but not the only reason. It's mainly because they made him IS Director of Asia-Pacific as well as Europe. He's thrilled with the promotion and the challenge of the job, despite the fact they didn't actually give him any more money to compensate for the extra travelling.

You're not the only one going off the deep end today. I know it's partly the hormones, but if DH dares to suggest that he'll be sorry. I'm also finding it hard at the moment because next Saturday was the due date for the baby I lost. I'm really pleased to be pregnant again, but I do keep thinking about what might have been.

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Here have a big big big birthday It must have been nice to have your parents over on your birthday, especially as your DH made such a pickle of the night!

I'm so with you on the "cant be bothered attitude" We know they work hard, and appreciate it, but honestly how long does it take to wrap some paper around a package and put two bits of tape? Even with the card thing, dont bother going to a shop to look for read and choose one, just make one, draw a funny picture and some sentimental words would go such a long way! There's absolutely no excuse for not even getting a take out and eating it with you first before checking in on e-mails. Not like your asking him to do it all year round, just on occasions like birthday,ani's.

My DH has to finish off the painting in the nursery, it's only been 3 wks since we started it, I cant paint because of the fumes, although it is amazing how he finds time at night to have a go on his playstation!

And, of course we dont get tired, after all we are superwomen and never need to rest!

I'm glad your DH will be grounded from January onwards, at least that will give you piece of mind knowing that he wont be away during the birth. DH has booked his late summer holiday starting tonight for 2 wks followed by 2 wks paternity leave, but his boss rang him and asked if he would be starting his holiday after this weekend or waiting until the arrival is here, then DH said it was ok to work up until I deliver, which is fine but I didnt like it too much that he didnt ask me first, he even talked about if I get my VBAC I should be able to drive a few days later so would I mind him going back to work as he had a rush job on ? d I said dont let me hold you back, I'll let you know when to come to the hospital when I'm in Stage 2 labour then you can go back to work and finish off for the day afterwards! and I will of course try not to end up with a C-section just so you dont have to take the time off work!

I so hate the " I'll do it now and just apologise later" thing. To me an apology is only valid when they genuinely didnt mean to do it, or it was done purely accidentally.

I knew the due date for your baby was soon, how are you feeling about it? I cant imagine but it's got to be difficult especially with also being pg again, please have these from me, I will be thinking about you on saturday.

Luke I hope you get loads of gifts and have a great day with your mummy, daddy & Auntie

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Anderson ~ 7th Oct 2005
EDD 8th Nov


Christopher ~ 8th Nov 2001
EDD 9th Dec


Patrick & Dawn ~ Met 24th Jan 1991

Thanks for the hugs Dawn. What a pair we make with our thoughtless DHs! I know that he cares, but it would be nice if he could just show it a bit more. My DH is really bad with cards. He doesn't really care about them, so he doesn't bother, even though he knows they matter to me. Even when he remembers to buy one he leaves it at work (Mother's Day) or forgets to actually give it to me (Anniversary).

I had to at your DH asking if he can go back to work after a couple of days. Does he remember what newborns are like? How does he think you will cope with Christopher and the new baby just days after giving birth? I know that recovery after a C-section is harder, but giving birth isn't exactly a walk in the park, however you do it.

Sometimes they say the stupidest things. A few weeks ago DH said he hoped the scan didn't show any problems because he was due to fly to Rome the next day. I told him I hoped the scan didn't show any problems either for the sake of our baby rather than some random work trip. I know he meant that really and the timing was a minor consideration, but it didn't come out that way. He did apologise for that one!

The due date is next Saturday (8th) in case I didn't make that clear, but with Luke being two weeks early I could already have a second child by now ... I'm okay about it really. Being pg again actually helps a lot, especially being far enough along that I've had the anomoly scan and can feel the baby moving every day. It's just that I can't help thinking about the baby that I'll never meet. There is a woman from work who is due on the 9th. Her name is also Karen and there's been quite a bit of talk about her and whether she's had her baby yet. I know people can't possibly know what it does to me every time someone asks if Karen has had her baby yet and isn't she due soon, but it still hurts. I know I'll be fine in a couple of weeks. The due date just brings it all back.

It helps that I have Luke's birthday to focus on instead. His birthday is actually Tuesday, but I have to work and he'll probably fall asleep on the way home from my mum's as usual, so we're celebrating early. I know my mum & dad will make a huge fuss of him on his birthday, so he won't miss out, especially as he doesn't really understand what birthdays are yet. He knows what to do with presents though - he tried to unwrap mine yesterday!

Thanks again for the hugs. They really do help.

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Mummy to Luke & Connor

I know what you mean about the present thing, Christopher likes to open presents whoever's it is, even when we go to other kids birthday parties, which can get quite embarrasing.

It must be hard at work right now, I hope that the next couple of weeks go by swiftly and you can start to feel better with each day. I know it's all a matter of belief but i think one day you'll get to meet your baby

I asked my DH if he had told Tony that he is now officially on red alert and could leave at a moments notice, he said yes, I then asked what his reply was and he said " Well there's not a lot he can say, he can't do anything about it, can he!" My reply was " well you could always leave him your car, and pay for a taxi for 60 miles!" sometimes I have to ask myself can he really be that stupid??? Although we can't afford to he is more than likely going to have to take the whole 4 weeks off, and poor Tony will have to drive himself to work and pay for his own petrol!

You and I both know what they mean, but why oh why cant they say it right, dont they know when your speaking to a pg woman that they need to be clear and gentle with how they put things?

I dont think christopher knows his birthday is coming up soon either, the thing is we have decided to get him his first bike as a present from the baby when he arrives, but it's only going to be 2 weeks before Christopher's birthday we are having second thoughts as to what to get him. Any idea's????

I managed to get some washing done today, i've washed everything between 0-3 months at least the baby will have some clothes to wear when it comes, I just have to get myself some pj's and some underwear and we should be set! I must go check out the hospital bag list and see if there's anything i've forgotten.

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Anderson ~ 7th Oct 2005
EDD 8th Nov


Christopher ~ 8th Nov 2001
EDD 9th Dec


Patrick & Dawn ~ Met 24th Jan 1991