I'm really mad at DH

dawnmac · #1 (**permalink**) 03-10-2005, 11:47 AM

You all remember me wanting to start TTC #2 a lot sooner than originally planned, but had to wait until after we had bought our home and we were settled in because DH said it would make sense to.

We have had a couple of breif talks about TTC since the move and both agreed that it wouldnt be a bad idea.

After not really trying last month and completely missing the dates, I now find myself 6 weeks Pregnant. I did the HPT yesterday and got a Positive, So happily I told Christopher, I asked if he would like a baby brother or a sister, he replied "Yes Please!" this made me really happy I couldnt stop cuddling him and smiling to myself I was almost in tears.

I told DH just as we went to bed last night, I said " I forgot to tell you something" he said "what?" I said "I'm pregnant" His reply was "you're not are you? you are joking?" I was so annoyed I cant even explain. He then asked "was I sure?" at this point I threw the HPT at him and told him to look for himself. He asked when it was due and I said "Early November, but would probably arrive in October". He then turned over and went to sleep.

I couldnt bere to be in the same bed as him, I just wanted to kick him, there I was waiting for joy and happiness and excitement, and look what I got instead, sheer disapointment. I left and went to sleep on the spare bed in Christopher's room. I was so wound up I really couldnt sleep most of the night.

DH got up late for work this morning and called me once at lunch time to see what I was doing, didnt mention anything about the pregnancy and just told me to be careful. He rang again at 5pm to tell me he was working late and wouldnt be home in time to see Christopher before his bedtime.

I have told two close friends today who were really happy for me, which was nice to be able to talk to people that understood me, but nonetheless I just cant seem to get excited about it. I havent even told my mum, although I know she will be happy.

I have an Diabetic appointment tomorrow with my dr and I will have to inform him so he can refer me to the hospital. Over this last week I have been cramping in my belly (like period pains) and have also had backache, I cant remember if this is anything to worry about??? let me know if you can?

I also didnt really want to post here, especially because of Karen, I wasnt sure if she was still reading the posts and knew she would still be hurting.

I'm sorry I havent been around lately, I hope to try and join in more often.

Thanks for listening

I really needed to get that off my chest.

EmmaInEngland · #2 (**permalink**) 03-10-2005, 12:59 PM

I am so excited for you Dawn, what fantastic news. Ignore your husband... matt was always blase even when I got pregnant with Seren, it was just his way of letting it sink in... He'll come round

I always had cramping and aches from the round ligaments stretching!

crisantemo · #3 (**permalink**) 03-10-2005, 01:01 PM

DAWN

that is wonderful news. Honey I am thrilled for oyu especially as it was such a surprise.

BUT DH

that is bad. Hopefully it just heanst registered with him and he will come home and say sorry. If not you will have to tell him how wanderful it is that e will be a daddy again and let him see its not all bad.

And Dawn, I wouldnt hold back because of Karen. and I hope she doesnt mind me saying this ... but when I lost Molly, a girl I knew avoided me because she had her baby the same week.. I was devestated when I found out ... its hard to be in that position but you find that if people shy away from you its worse. Karen, if you dont agree please tell me. If you put (pg) on yourpost title then people have to choise to read or not read.

ANYWAY

again

dawnmac · #4 (**permalink**) 03-11-2005, 04:10 AM

Thanks girls, I really needed that. When DH got home last night @ 10pm he just asked how my day had gone and continued not to bring up the subject. I think I'll leave him to deal with it in his own way, i'm sure he'll let me know when he wants to discuss it.

I have an appt with my diabetic dr this afternoon at 16:45 I'm gonna take Christopher to the nursery/playgroup for a few hours so I can get ready and have my appt in peace. I'm still getting the cramps and the backache seems to be getting worse, hopefully it's nothing to worry about. It's been so long I feel like I've forgotten what to do.

I will also tell my mum tonight after the doctors appt & update you guys when I get back.

Thanks for listening

ukmomto4 · #5 (**permalink**) 03-12-2005, 06:13 AM

Hey Congrats on your little surprise. I am sure dh will come round and be over the moon once the news has settled into his brain a little - thats men for ya ! Good luck at the doctors as well and I hope your Mum can give u the support u need whilst waiting for the dhs.

IheartJandA · #6 (**permalink**) 03-12-2005, 01:12 PM

I'm sorry your dh is being like that Dawn. CONGRATULATIONS on your

that is great news!! Love the pic of Christopher in your sig, he is such a cutie. Nice to see him there again!

krg29 · #7 (**permalink**) 03-13-2005, 10:40 AM

Dawn, please don't worry about posting your news on here. Amanda is absolutely right. I am still hurting, but I don't expect everyone else to be miserable because I am. I'm not jealous of other pg women, I just want to still be pg too. When I come to this site I am prepared for all the pg and baby stuff, so if I'm feeling fragile I don't come here.

I am genuinely pleased to hear your news, especially as I know you have been TTC on and off for a while. Feel free to post about your pregnancy as much as you like, especially if your dh continues to be unsupportive.

Does it help to know that my dh said exactly the same thing when I told him I was pg? He was complaining about still being half asleep, so I told him I had some news that would wake him up. "You're not are you?" was the first thing he said, despite the fact that we had just agreed to start TTC and I got pg the first month with Luke as well. I know he didn't bond with Luke until after he was born. He's not one of those men that talks to the bump and I know that he doesn't feel the same sense of loss that I do right now. He's worried about me and understands why I'm upset, but just doesn't have those feelings himself.

It's a man thing!