Ok, I know it's not really a big deal, but I'm a little upset. I got totally shafted for mother's day!

I know dh has been really busy and stressed lately, but there have been pleanty of opportunities for him to get something ready or at least go to the store to get some flowers or something. NOTHING. Not even a card. I kept thinking, ok, maybe he'll do something later on... Well, we went to church and the daughter of one of our friends came up to us and was like, "Hey Sam, what did you do for mother's day?" This BLANK look came over his face like "Oh crap..." He kinda looks over at me and I tried to play it off as kinda funny that he forgot and we moved past it. Then in Sacrament meeting, you know, they usually give something to all the women. Again, NOTHING. I know I wasn't the only one surprised. Then I was thinking, Well, maybe in nursery the teacher will have the kids draw a picture or something. Nothing. Not even a macaroni noodle necklace! lol. So we're on our way home and dh still hasn't even said "happy mother's day" to me so I mentioned to him that I was kinda hurt that he forgot, even though it's not that big of a deal. And he's like, "Well, I'll make you dinner tonight." Ok, well, he was planning to make dinner anyway because we're having homemade soft tacos and only he knows how to make the tortillas. So then he's like, "well, we'll do something tomorrow." but for me, that just makes me feel worse because it's like he's guilted into it instead of doing it from his heart, KWIM?

Anyway, I know it's not a big deal but I'm still kinda hurt...
Anyone else?

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Ok, so it's only 9:30am here, but as of yet, my 8 yr old is the only one who said a word...he's brought me TWO gifts!! Both of which were very sweet!

I just felt like I should add to my original post... I am very grateful for all that I have and I know I'm blessed to have such a great dh and dd. I just felt like whining. lol. Dh has actually helped me out A LOT the last few days (especially w/ watching maya so I could go work at the new church building), and he's actually putting her to bed right now, which he's never done before. cross your fingers that it will go well! lol.

Happy mothers day to you all!!

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I'm sorry! Maybe he's really planning something but just acting like he didn't have a clue. But if not, I'm so sorry. It's great though that you let him know how you feel. It's just one of those special days where a little more recognition out of the ordinary is so appreciated by us mothers. I can totally understand why you feel the way you do. I want to wish you a happy and wonderful Mother's Day. I hope it goes better for you.

I think you're absolutely justified in being upset!! I've been shafted more time for Mother's Day, our wedding anniversary and my birthday more times than I care to count. Part of it is that it's just not in most guys line of thinking, kwim? Like to JP, Father's Day is truly not a big deal to him. Okay, well, then, you didn't push or have the kid pulled out of you!! I also used to get "to my wife" cards where he signed his name AND the kids' names. HUH???This year, I left him a shortcut bookmark to what I wanted for Mother's Day. It was right on his desktop under his sign in - smack dab in the middle of the screen with "Mother's Day gift idea" in the title. Nice and subtle, huh? I didn't get what I asked for, but did finally get something REALLy nice this time. His card to me acknowledged that he's not always been the greatest at remembering me, etc etc. I don't mention this to rub it in, but that there is hope for future Mother's Days. It still doesn't erase the hurt from the past though.

Once Maya and any siblings are older, they'll do crafts in school and dh will have no way of "forgetting" about getting you something. Tommy and Hannah have been talking about Mother's Day for the last several weeks. Plus, they also made me cards and told Daddy that they needed to buy cards for me. You could always count on Maya to "remind" your dh.

I hope he somehow makes it up to you and it feels genuine and not like he was guilted into it.

Happy Mother's Day from me and my kids!!

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Well I did get a card and the promise I could go to my massage therapist as soon as I want! But my DH is mostly the same, he almost always forgets until last minute, and alot of times doesn't put a whole lot of thought into it. At least he told me how much he appreciates me and loves me and reassured me that I'm a good mother!

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I always get a gift and the promise I can have a few hours of quiet time to myself. Which at this point I think is better then anything I can get. Anyway, when he does this for me it always comes with a huff and a puff when the kids do something that bothers him. He makes a big deal out of the smallest things they do. I mean this is stuff I deal with every day!!!!!!!!!! He acts like they are doing it just because he is watching them. I end up feeling guilty that I am in my room reading or working on genealogy (which I love and never have the time to do) and I go take over for him. He acts like it's no big deal. What he doesn't realize is, it is. Then he makes the comment "I can't wait until Father's Day so I can just lay around all day" He gets to do that every weekend!

Don't get me wrong, he is a great father and husband. I wouldn't change him in anyway. I just think they are oblivious when it comes to this stuff.

Don't apologize! You have every right to be bummed and to vent a little bit! I would be sad too!!! Do you have a good bakery near you? $10 at a good bakery would fix it (somewhat) for me

Marianne