How are you all open and honest about sex in your relationship without letting it become to casual of a topic?

DH is in school.... BAH!... and so everyone of his friends knows that he's married and we have a kid, so no joke! We have sex! So that makes them feel like it's okay to openly talk about sex with him (mind you, NONE of them are married, but it's college and they all think that's what you're um supposed to do?) Anyway, I didn't realize just how sensitive I was about all this until the other day someone was wearing one of those AWFUL co-ed naked shirts.

Now, I admit, I've had a good laugh at things that have sexual conotations before (yes, shhh, my favorite t.v. show IS Will & Grace for crying out loud), but I got REALLY offended by the shirt and DH was laughing at it. I didn't get angry with him or anything because it was totally geared toward his major and I understood the joke; I just got so offended before I could even laugh.

So that led us to a conversation about how open his friends are when they talk about sex. DH is a good guy and is very respectful, but I'm afraid he's just getting too comfortable with sex talk and forgetting how sacred it is...

What do you think? Do you agree? Or am I just being a "prude"? LoL

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Ahh this is a hard one. For me how easily I am offended definitely goes hand in hand with how my spiritual life is at the moment. Now if his friends are serious about the questions they have then I don't think that is so bad, but I have the feeling that is not the case. I think most sex talk is taken lightly and that it is just sex talk and not for the benefit of learning or consoling or whatever. I personally don't like to talk specific details about mine and DH's sex life because I feel that it is just between us. I'm not saying I haven't or wouldn't if there were a true need to.
Anyway so now that I've rambled on and haven't really answered your question. No I don't think you are being too much of a prude for being easily offended. Don't you think President Hinckley or any of the apostles or Heavenly Father or Jesus would be offended by the shirt and/or the talk about it? IMO that is all that really matters, just think How would they feel in this situation and then I think you'll have your answer.

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I have a few close friends that I feel I can really talk about sex with. I don't go into graphic details but getting tips and finding out that I'm not the only one who thinks this or that does help. I don't talk about it casually with anyone, it's just not a casual topic for me really. I know I've made off handed comments here and there with other people I'm comfortable with and I'm a pretty open minded person so I'm not offended by a lot.

I do get offended by taking it lightly, talking bad about it, yucky T-shirts, jokes etc. I don't think you are being a prude and I know things are done jokenly but I think people should have a little respect for such an awsome and intimate act and in this world it's just another common everyday act and isn't respected at all.

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I totally agree with Shabs. I have a good friend that I talk about things with. It's nice to have someone to talk to sometimes. I think it totally depends on the context of the situation. I think it's healthy to be able to talk about it in appropriate settings and I sometimes think that as an lds culture we make it a little too taboo. I think the trick is learning how to discuss things appropriately without taking it too lightly.

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