I just found out I have to have a hysterectomy on July 18. DH and I were not planning on having any more children, due to all the complications I have had with my others. I still feel sad and upset. DH doesn't understand why I'm upset because we weren't going to have any more anyway. I also have lots of questions that I can't seem to get answered. Like will our sex life change do to it? Will I gain weight?(something a friend told me). I get to keep my overies so I won't have to go on hormones. Thank Goodness! Does anyone have any answers for my questions or an words of advice for me? Would love to hear anything anyone has to say. Oh and the reason I'm having the hysterectomy is because I have numerous fibroid tumors the size of golf balls and a few that are as big as grapefruit. I look like I'm 6 months pregnant!

Well I don't have personal exerience but my mom had the exact same thing with the fibroids and she has done awesome since her surgery years ago. My aunt just had it done a year ago and she is very skinny still and says she is so glad she had it done because she feels a TON better!
25 does sound so young but if it will help you feel better and not have so many complications then I think it would be a good choice. And just think you won't have to have AF come visit every month, that part would be a major +++ in my book!
Good Luck to you! I hope you can feel comforted about it!

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~Amanda~ proud wife to Matt and SAHM to Katey, Aubrey, and Lucy

I have to share this story, because it sounds like what you're going through. The sister that helped me find the Gospel was in your situation at age 28, and the local doctors told her that she, too, needed a hysterectomy. Well, her sister was a resident in a Boston hospital with a surgeon and she told him about it and he wanted to see her. Anyway, when she went there, he said "you don't need a hysterectomy, we can remove the tumors" (11 or 12 of them, I think, and ranging in size like yours). He removed them without doing a hysterectomy. She even kept the picture to show me later (that was a little crazy). But anyway, have you had a second opinion? Are you sure that you absolutely have to have a hysterectomy? If you aren't 100% behind that, then try for a second opinion. It may be well worth it.

I hope that helps some. That's a hard situation.

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Angela

Oh hun, I have no advice or anything. But I would maybe seek a 2nd opinion like Ang suggested.

Also, just wanted to let you know that you will be in my and

{{{{HUGS}}}}

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I have a friend that is 30 and just had a hysterectomy (complete one), because of horrible endometriosis (sp?), and repeated surgeries to remove the fibroids. She is so happy that she did it! She said that her sex life improved because between the pain of ovulation, and the pain of her periods, she never wanted to 'do it'. . . . good luck!

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Oh, man, I have no advice on this one either besides seeking a second opinion if you aren't completely comfortable with the idea (can't hurt!). At least you were able to have your family before it happened. At 25 I was barely married and would have been devastated to lose my uterus before I was able to use it! I hope this improves things for you and that you are able to feel better and do better.

Marianne

I don't have any advice either, but what a thing to be thinking about a 25! And I agree, if you haven't had a 2nd or even 3rd opinion, it never hurts to get one! I also just want to offer some big hugs!

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Becky
DH Jesse
DD Melinda, Oct. 16, 2003
DS Jacob, Aug. 14, 2005
#3 due March 26, 2008

Thank you all so much! The doctor that is doing the surgery is the 5th doctor I went to. I asked about just having the tumors removed and he said that there is too much scar tissue to even attempt to it. Plus he said the back side of my uterus has like 20+ small tumors. Then all my other ones. I had an abnormal emdometrial aspration. They found pre-cancerous cells in the lining of my uterus so it's really best to take it out. Just feeling sorry for myself I guess. And please don't get me wrong I am so thankful for my family. I know that there are many women out there that would give anything for three children. I know I shouldn't complain, but for some reason it's just bothering me. Thanks a bunch for the support, I could really use it.

I understand totally why it's bothering you! Even for a woman who is done having children, it's different to close that door totally. And it's like the main function of a woman to bare children, so to take that away might leave you feeling like your ultimate purpose is no more....I'd imagine any woman that knows they are done having kids might feel that. I am very sorry for your troubles, that is a lot to have to deal with. I would try to find a support board for women that have had this done, they can tell you what they went through, offer advice, tell you what happened after, etc. I'm sure there is one out there some where! We are very supportive here, but probably just don't have the answers you might really use right now. I hope it all goes smoothly for you!

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I was thinking about it, too, and you put your finger on what I was thinking, Michelle. Even if you're done having kids it's sad to close the door permanently. You can't help but feel the loss of the possibilities. Definitely give yourself permission to mourn the loss!

Marianne