I've thought a lot about this subject, and I'm wondering if anyone feels the same way. My baby is 1/2 Chinese and 1/2 Caucasian. My boyfriend is Chinese and I'm white. I was asking his cousin (also 1/2 white, just like my daughter) if he tells people that he's 1/2 white, and he said, "No, I just say I'm Chinese." I asked him what box Isabelle would check on paperwork that asks her ethnicity, and he said, "Asian." He basically told me (not in so many words) that he doesn't really even recognize the "white part of him." This kind of bothers me. I don't want Isabelle to be like that... Why do I disappear just because I'm white? Apparently, you can only be proud of your heritage as long as it's not white? Whenever I say that my baby looks white, my boyfriend kind of gets mad (not really, but he acts a little offended). Why is being white so bad? I didn't do anything wrong... It's not like it's my fault that I'm white. Eh...maybe I'm being a little dramatic, but I don't think it's fair to expect people to be ashamed of their "white half."

Anyway, I don't even know if anyone is even going to respond to this, but I had to get it off my chest.

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I understand your question. Im white kids dad is black. When filling out paperwork I check both boxes. In my kids case....even though they are half white society will see them as black...nothing you or I can do to change that so just embraise. HTH

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I guess it also depends where you are at. I do live in the South but there are so many different shades and mixes down here that people do want to know your specific mix. My baby's father is black and I am Hispanic (my parents were born in Honduras). I have a very fair complexion though so to some people I am white. Anyway, on Mia's paperwork I check both which is easy because they will ask Ethnicity: Hispanic, Non-hispanic, and something else I forget and I check Hispanic and then for Race: Caucasian, black, and the others. I check Black. For the paperwork that doesn't have both or have it like that. I check Other.

You have to make sure your baby knows both sides and both cultures. I mean I know you said you are white but make sure she knows where your people come from and their history.

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Michele B

Hi Aimee,
I completely understand, because I feel the same way. Black people here say my daughter is/will be viewed as black by others but I really dont care how other people view her. I KNOW and she knows she is BOTH - black AND white. So whenever possible I check either both boxex or if there is an option i check multiracial. And I am always talking about her as a biracial child not black. I am not and never will deny her white heritage. Why should I? Cause she is darker than white? Yeah she is darker cause she is NOT white same like she is NOT black. She is BOTH, half and half whatever we choose to call it... just like your daughter is BOTH - Asian AND Caucasian. Dont let people deny it or tell you different. It is your baby not theirs...
Good luck with dealing with issues like that

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