Things are not good.

Becky Beth · #1 (**permalink**) 10-05-2006, 09:10 PM

Our marriage is in a bad way, I got very ill from the conflict last night and was vomiting.

Tonight we are to talk about whether he is to move out for a bit, i am so tired and worn out from it all, his behaviour is not on and I have had enough, some issues have been oing on for the whole marriage, over five years.

Please pray for us.

matthew · #2 (**permalink**) 10-06-2006, 02:52 AM

Will do.

Remember that Satan hates marragies, your husband has made a decision to follow God (if i remember correctly, forgive me if i am wrong) and that you are also pregnant. This means that both of you are even more of a target for him to attack and break it up and he'll try anything and everything possible.

Ephesians 6:10-17 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints.

God is there and he will show you the right path to take and protect you both thru this.

Will be praying for you Becky.

God bless,

Matthew

JavaJill · #3 (**permalink**) 10-06-2006, 12:57 PM

I'm sorry you are having to go thru this struggle

Becky Beth · #4 (**permalink**) 10-08-2006, 04:38 PM

I am still finding it hard. I am so stress and mentally warn out I am snapping at the kids, I just wanna cry. I had to stay at mum's for a night with the kids and dh is sleeping in another room. He doesn't want to but I need my space, I feel so angery and hurt, he doesnt get what five years of porn addiction has done to hurt me and thinks becuase he is getting help I should be over it.
I think he is relising that because he doesn't undersatnd does mean its not happening, feelings etc. He thinks I am percuting him. But there is a lot of trust. I think he just doesn't want to deal with the responsbility of his actions, wants me to not be afected. He has a way of getting out of his responsbilities, pretty much has but work.

Thanks for listening, please pray that my dh relises he has really hurt me and its going to take time and his help to heal.

Thank you

God Bless

soontobemommy · #5 (**permalink**) 10-08-2006, 09:06 PM

I will pray for you Becky!! Remember what Matthew said. The devil wants you guys to seperate. If you need your space for a little to heal that is a different case. I mean I haven't been married more than a year yet. I took alot of premarital counseling though and learned alot. the devil is here to break families apart. God is here to restore!!! Pray and seek God in this time of hurt, that is the only way to get through this.

Second I know what its like to be pregnant...lol. Your emotions are here and there and everywhere. If you love him work it out. I'm not saying what he did wasn't wrong because it most def. is. I just don't want to see you let someone go if that is not God's will. I'm sorry if I'm saying to much . I just put myself in your situation and I say what I know I would want to hear. To press on. It's hard and it hurts.

Remember God is hurt by us everyday and the sin we commit but HE forgives us, and wants us to extend that grace to other people.

I will pray that your husband feels the pain he has caused you and starts to repent. I hope I didnt offend you at all. I just want to see you better!! We all love you sister!! remember to take care of yourself and that beautiful baby on the way. Take a day for yourself and just pray and go to a spa!! Get your mind restored and yourself pampered!!!! Update us Becky.

Alybear · #6 (**permalink**) 10-08-2006, 10:41 PM

Becky..I've been down the separation road.. God can do miracles. You do not want to be on your own raising 3 children..no matter how dumb your man may seem. God is working in the background through all of this.

wait it out. Your dh is a sinner just like you..and you must confess your forgiveness for him before God (not that you feel forgiveness..God will work on that)
He IS the man God picked for you.. i find that I can't be the holy spirit to my husband..the more you yell, pick and fight him the more he will turn away. Right now he needs your understanding as much as you need his. So be the first one to step up to the plate and treat him as you wish to be treated. And remember God's grace for you...your attitude will only change as you allow God to change it. Remember Jesus is your husband through all of this.. he will teach and guide you...and he is the only one who can love you as you want to be loved.
BTW when we were seperated (4 years ago) i got this scripture from the Lord.. and confessed it every day "We love because he first loved us"..

and God would fill me with a love for my man..and it still works today.

(((hugs)))

I'd also reccomend the book Created to be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl.. its excellent and hard hitting..just what i needed throughout the hard times.

God bless!!

Becky Beth · #7 (**permalink**) 10-09-2006, 05:28 AM

Remember God is hurt by us everyday and the sin we commit but HE forgives us, and wants us to extend that grace to other people.

This hit hard, but ty so much for showimg me this.

God Bless

Becky Beth · #8 (**permalink**) 10-09-2006, 05:31 AM

"We love because he first loved us"..
Ty need to know this.

Alybear · #9 (**permalink**) 10-09-2006, 07:57 PM

Becky..you are doing so well

I know you are not only going to make it through but your marriage will PROSPER because of your willingness to go on and persue God.

W/LUV · #10 (**permalink**) 10-10-2006, 05:47 AM

My heart goes out to you!!! You are in my thoughts and prayers.