Why are men such pains!!!??
I can really relate to what you other guys are saying! My STBH lies about the dumbest stuff, and he is a HUGE slob, though of course when we first got together he was the biggest neat freak. Now that I am around it seems I am his personal maid, cook, and sex machine. GOD!
Anyways, it all started about a week ago... We got his paycheck and he took the ATM card to get some money out. I had to confinscate his card bcause he wouldnt pay attention to his finances and overdraft the account and that makes me super mad! Anyways, I asked him how much he took out and he says $40, so I write it down to help with the budgeting. Later that night I got online to check the account balance and see what bills had posted and I see he had actually taken out $100! WTF? Seriously? I didnt care if he had taken the $100, I just wanted to know! Why did he have to lie? Stupid Jerk!
This is not the first time either, and he promised he would stop smoking... so he took up chewing tobacco because he said he needed it to help him stop smoking. Now he chews AND smokes! Friggin nasty! I stopped smoking, cold turkey even. Not only was it sick and wrong, but it was costing us insane ammounts of money per month! He lied about that, and he lies about using his money to buy these things. Makes me soo friggin angry I could scream! Whatever, I need to pick my battles.
Then yesterday, my DD woke up at 6am sick with a high fever and barfing all over. STBH takes off to work (Navy recruiter) and I call about 11 to see how his day is. He informs me that him, and his new recruiter trainee, and the gusy gf are in another town fishing! Yes, work was slow so he took off fishing! So we have been here almost a year and have no friends, we stay at home all week and weekends unless we go across the state to visit family, we dont go out, we sit sit sit and he is out with potential friends, fishing! On a work day no less!!!! And he wonders why I am upset.... could it be that his friend cared enough to invite his gf and he was fine being a 3rd wheel and didnt even bother to call to see if we wanted to go?? Could it be that I would love to possibly get out of this house, even if it was to do something I dont particularly love? Could it be that it was a Saturday, one of the only family days we have and he was off messing around? GRRRR!! I was so angry! Then I had to spend 3 hrs in the ER with DD because she was so sick, what a wonderful Saturday! Today started out fine, except when I brought up the subject of cleaning the spare room, which I have been on him to do for weeks. He messed it up in the first place, its only about 8x8, and its the only thing I ever ask him to do. Anyways, I got up early, took a shower, and began cleaning. I not only cleaned the 2 bedrooms, the living room, bathroom, but I did all the dishes and started stuff for dinner. He moseys out and gets right on his stupid computer to play games! ALLLLL day this continued! Finally once he caught the hint that I was cleaning, he got up and started to clean the spare room, grumbling the entire time about it, then he jumps all over me for no reason, and then he asks me why I am being mean to him! Seriously?? I ignore him... until he gets super pissy and goes around the house doing stuff to make me mad. He picked up everything that was on my end table, stuff I was using, because "it was cluttered", he stuffed everything I had sitting next to my dresser in my closet so he could carpet clean the floors in our room (after I had already cleaned the room and vacuumed the carpets) he cleaned DD's room up, (again after I had already cleaned it, and put away all of her clothing and made her bed) he made a huge show of washing the 3 dishes that were in the sink and scrubbing the counters and stovetop (again, already done) and then he vacummed the carpet, shampooed the carpet, and then purposely tried to get a rise out of me by spraying several different things on our black suede sofa! OMG I ABOUT LOST IT!!! Anyways, I am sorry for going on and on, I am just frusterated, and like I said, I have no friends here so this is my only outlet! I should go, right now he is glaring at me from the other end of the sofa, mumbling things, and asking me if I took up writing books.... Stupid... I am just going to ignore him until tomorrow when I work :o)
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Re: Why are men such pains!!!??
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