(disclaimer: This isn't about any argument going on at this moment. It just happens so much that any such similarity between my complaints and a post at this time is nothing but coincidence)

I'm nearing 2 years on these boards here and have noticed some ideas or lines people use that quite frankly, irritate me. Not that they were meant to irritate, it's just that I don't believe them or are just dumb.

My first one is when people say "With that being said". To me that reads "Now for my real feelings". It seems that one will set up some sort of safty net before coming out with their real thoughts or feellings and use "With that being said" as a transistion.

I can't even explain my other complaint, I'll have to give and example. Lets say there is someone who is upset because another mother said she was making bad choices (usually found in BF and Circ discussions) and might have even gone as far to say she's lazy, doesn't care for her child as much as she should, she's uneducated, ect.. The offened person then replies, stating how rude and mean their words were to her. The person who called her or insinuated that people like her are lazy, don't care for their child as much as they should, she's uneducated, ect. realizes this but instead of saying "sorry, that was a bit much" she'll post "Well if you truly are comfortable with your decisions, you wouldn't be offened or hurt by my words".

I'm sorry but I fail to find the logic in that whatsoever. Just because I feel someone's insult to me isn't true, it doesn't make the insult any less hurtful, right? If someone says you made a bad parenting choice and your kids might suffer from it... even though you know they're full of BS, doesn't it still elicit an emotion out of you? What if someone was to call your child dumb? Are you only allowed to get angry at that person if you child was truly dumb?

I think if someone really feels people only get offended by things said to them that are true, they're either in denial and need that line as a quick get away or they're in need of some emotional therapy because IMO, not having a normal emotion is wrong and needs to be looked at.

Anybody have other common lines in posts that they dislike?

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Since you asked.

Like they would not have felt the need to post what every they are going it if someone did not ask. Like with names, Cir, BF, type of birth mainly. The thread is about a topic, you read it, you were mostlikly going to post weither they asked or just left the post end with their thoughts on it......

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I gotta disagree with you on one point-when someone insults me about something I know not to be true I don't get mad. At all. My mother is constantly saying very nasty things to me about my husband (halfway accusing him of being a child molester) my parenting, my body, my husbands body, etc. and it doesn't bother me at all. I don't even really defend it, just say. "I'm sorry you feel like that, but it isn't true" repeat ad infinitum until she shuts up. if someone said my child was dumb, I'd probably say "no,she/he's not." and if they continued to say that I'd leave the conversation. however when my mother insults me about something I DO feel inadequate about, such as the food my children eat, I get offended and react. They don't eat crap, but maybe not as well as they should, especially my two year old.
Some of my irritations: when you are trying to give facts to someone and they automatically say "you think I"m a bad mother/parent!" uh no, just trying to educate a little. it also bugs me, and I know it may be a typo but it happens all too often for it to ALWAYS be one, is ECT. it is ETC., which abbreviates the Latin phrase Et Cetera "so goes the rest."

Why would this be your first post made, ever? If you can't be truthful with your screen name, I fail to see where you would be truthful in your post.

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Hi. Okay, I somehow thought this mioght come up and I probably should have introduced myself first. I have been posting under the name of Whosyourmomma or whosyourmomma200 (global ezboard name) since 2001. I haven't yet posted on this board because I just haven't had time to register, but I have been lurking. I'm sorry if something I said offended you, but I didn't really think there was anything in my post to be "untruthful" about. If you want to check my postings, I posted on the breastfeeding boards at Geoparent, (most of my posts were here..since having my second baby I've not had a whole lot of time to post...) the lactivist lounge, the Due in October and September S prouts on Epregnancy or Myria or one of them..I think it was purple. I'm not sure if those were all of them, but some. And thanks for a warm welcome to the boards!

Welcome to these particular boards

I really don't have a particular pet peeve line. I do have an aversion to lack of most proper punctuation and capitilization.

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Whosyourmama,

Exactly. Seeing how you said you've been on these boards forever, you would certainly understand how trollish you looked. I would have given you a "warm greeting" otherwise.

Now that I know your not someone with a false screen name, I'll respond to your original post.
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Doesn't bother you at all? Your own mother says all these crappy things to you and it doesn't from any emotion in you what-so-ever? I know I would be upset at my mother, does that mean I would be admitting guilt???
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Why even do that if she she truly doesn't bother you when she says those things? By your logic, she should simply retort "If you were not feeling guilty for marrying a childmolester, you wouldn't care what I say" and you would ultimately be guilty of what she said.
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Same thing with your first analogy. Why did you react if it didn't cause you an emotion in the first place? Your child must truly be if it bothers you enough to say she/he isn't.
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You reacted when she halfway said your husband is a child molester. You would react when someone calls your child stupid... why do you do it if you're not offened, upset, angry or simply trying to correct a incorrect thought or statement?

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wow i wanted to post here too but now i'm afraid that every single statement I will write would get a 'psychological analysis' here like above
oh what the hell i will say it - i do not like when people are analyzing posts of others...

Also, I have seen threads (maybe more at geoparents) where people were accused of posting under another username or multiple usernames - and IF thats the fact then of course its something wrong and shouldnt have a place. BUT I would rather wait and see or try to talk to this person instead of attacking them with harsh words, making them to prove their identity without ANY REAL PROVES against them. Its not very welcoming and if i would be a new member and got a reply saying that I was posting before under another username etc etc then i would simply leave that board.

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* argh i meant ''any real proofs''

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My pet peeve is not any line but more how people post. I am on dial up currently and I have no time to be clicking links of people who post in such a way you have to open it. You know, a title that can mean many things and when you hover the pointer over it all you see is a link or a few words with spacing so that the firts dew lines are not posted. I know that it is a good way to get people to look, but I havent the time when the dial up I am on is slow and I get kicked off more times than I can count. I know, I know, I am spoiled by VBulletin.

That should read, first FEW lines. And I tend NOT to click on those subjects that people do that on.

EvE,

My reply is in no way a 'psychological analysis'. Her examples were condradicting her point and I was showing her/you that. I'm sorry this is something you do not like, perhaps you can give me another suggestion on how to of clearly make my point without using the handy quote tool?

She, like you, found your examples of things you do not like in posts based off of my posts here. She disagreed with my statement, and that is fine, I enjoy debating. But the questionable screen name and the mention of things she doesn't like that happened to be in my post very much warranted my response. I would not have felt she was using a fake screen name so much if she hadn't of used my post and use of the word "Et Cetera" as something to complain about.

It's a valid complaint really, but the timing due to it being her first post EVER and all, is still highly suspicious to me, but there is no way to prove and identity here. Sorry if that pisses you or her off.

To expect a warm welcome after admittedly making a suspicious post that included a jab towards me is ridiculous. Perhaps it would have been better for her to go to all those boards she's been a part of to get that, making sure not to jab at them in the intro????

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ZestySWmomma,

I hear you. I take my mouse and hover it over the posts all the time on ezboard now. I actually sit there for a second, waiting for the pop up!

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Jenna,

First - I wrote "psychological analysis'' in quotation marks so it wont be taken too serious - no harm intended from my side, rather joking.

Second - I WASNT refering to YOUR post here, I wrote "more at geoparents" cos that was the place where I've noticed happening this more than just one time - so it made me think a lot. Again - it wasnt about YOU - yes your post reminded me those facts (cant deny that!) but I didnt have you or your post in mymind when writing this. So no need to explain yourself (at least not to me) why you were suspecting her.

I understand your point - the etc example from your post, BUT I dont understand what makes you think I could be pissed off??? I believe there are more important things in life to be pissed off about... Was just giving MY point of view and like I said wasnt even refering to your post. And when I said about not welcoming athmosphere I meant situations when people were posting INTRODUCTION about themselves then few other posts and were accused of using fake or multiple usernames.

Oh one more thing - I dont like when people make assumptions... its always better to ask to make sure than to assume and judge.

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So this too has nothing to do with me, right?

Yes, I assumed you were talking about me, just like I assumed she was talking about my post. Just a lot of "coinincidences" appearently.

I agree with not assuming things and asking. But it looked like a duck and smelled like a duck... what can I say?

As people say "Silence is golden"

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Then practice that which you are preaching, Eve.


I have a few lines that drive me insane - or phrases.

1) For all intense purposes - hey dipwad, it's *for all intents and purposes.* OI!!

LOL, dang it - kids are calling - I'll post more later - there's a few such as that, that drive me wild. Heh..

I can play that game too EvE...

There's no saying that comes to mind but I think the one you pulled would work here too.

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Oh, missused or misspelled phrases or words irritate me too! The one I cringe when I read is "Wa-la" or some different spelling, when they're referring to the French word "Voila." That drives me crazy! I just want to post "It's VOILA, you idiot!"



jenn

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True Yank, so true BUT I wrote that only as the answer to "what can I say?" as - if you dont know what to say - better say nothing
If I didnt know what to say I would practice THAT but I knew what I wanted to say... heheh I know I know what a smartass I am

Jenna - I enjoy debating too But I didnt know we are playing a game what are the rules ?! And whats wrong with saying "oh what the hell - I will say it.."?? Do you mean its the example of the line you dont like in posts?

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