I posted this on debate too, but this is probably where it should have gone....I was too peeved to look for the right place. Here goes....

My dh and I have only been ttc for a few months. As I read through other posts on these boards I see that many many women have been trying for months and years to get pregnant. It's not an easy journey, regardless of the time and effort spent. I sympathize with anyone who has been "trying" because that's exactly what it is...trying on your body, your patience, and your relationship with your dh. I really appreciate that I have these forums to read and participate in, as it helps put my frustration into perspective. (What's four months when some women wait 4 years!) The support and genuine kindness out there makes me proud to be a woman. I hope that I can return some of that kindness to others as I go through my journey to concieve.

I understand that some women (including myself!) will go to any measure to make this work. Vitamins, supplements, new undies for dh, new positions, new diets and the like. I haven't had to resort to any medical intervention yet, and I totally respect those that have had to take that next step.

What really irks me is the seemingly obsessive compulsive behaviours of a few women on these boards. At first, you read their stories and can sympathize. Then it seems like they are just on the boards for the attention that they are getting. If another member has a dh with one symptom, then suddenly her dh has that. A women suffers from something, and surprise, she has it too! Several members offer what steps that they are taking to concieve, and then she has already been there, done that. Perhaps she has been through a tough time and truly has these issues, but it's like the boy who cried wolf...If you follow the stories, things just don't add up. When someone challenges these women, then they run for another board - if they were being honest, would they react that way? These forums are supposed to be a safe, non-threatening place for us to gather information, garner support from other ttc'ers that are in the same journey as all of us.

When a member appears to be abusing the trust we have for other members, it bothers me. We share a lot of information with each other that we wouldn't normally share with friends and family, let alone complete strangers. We trust that the information we are sharing is true, and genuine. I hate to think that there are women out there that need to use these boards to get the attention that they are obviously not getting in another aspect of their life.

Please don't misunderstand me, I believe the vast majority of women here are being true and genuine. I just don't think it's fair to see others out there that are using these boards for another reason. It would be nice if a moderator dropped in to some of these sessions and gently suggested to some of these women that perhaps this isn't the right place for them. Members can't do that without fear of retaliatory posts, or fear of being excluded from the boards that they want to participate in.

Thanks for letting me vent.

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I agree.

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I agree as well. Vent all you want!

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