ok, it has been about 8 weeks.... I think that is LONG ENOUGH. he always has excuses, I'm tired, I bit my tounge (yea thats a real excuse) I had a long day, blah blah blah :blah while he does work hard and he doesnt get home till late, theres no excuse for weekends. I think there is really somthing wrong him like medically, there should be no reason that he doesnt want to "give it up" he keeps asking for favors and I say I will do anything you want if you do me one small favor, I mean its been so long it wont take long, whats 5 mins LOL. I insists its not me, and I absolutly know that hes not cheating... aparently he can jsut go without... its killing me. I miss him. even just some cuddling, and 2 mins is NOT good enough (he tried that tonight) maybe not even sex, just (more than get it done and thats it) intimacy. I feel like he just wants to do it to get it over with then hes off the hook for another couple weeks. why doesnt he want me!?!?!?!?

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It seems he is having withdrawal symptoms. Is he suddenly gay? If not, he definately has another woman.

I don't think he is gay or cheating.

I would assume that this is a medical or psychological issue with him.

Have you talked to him about getting some medical advice and/or counselling? You need to let him know that being intimate with him is important to you and that ignoring the issue any longer is not acceptable.

Good luck!

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Wow 8 weeks is a very long time! Are you having any problems in your marriage? I don't think it's a good sign in your marriage. I think the two of you need to talk. I'm confused though I thought you were TTC. Does he not want another baby right now?

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I'm always missing my angels in heaven

we arent TRYING to concieve. but we arent preventing I guess. things are ok with us but we fight about the sex thing a lot. he just always says hes tired. but we finally did it WOOHOO

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Maybe this article will help?

http://divorcebusting.com/dbsex.mv?ARTID=sex_ch1

I would encourage both of you to read it and then have a discussion about what you have read.

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Sounds like he's stressed about SOMETHING.....and is maybe taking it out on you by denying you sex....sounds icky!
I hope it gets better for you asap!
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my hubby and i were apart for 7 monthes (he's in teh navy) and i thought sex would just happen all the time, i knew i wanted it an thought he did to. i was very mistaken. and teh more i wanted it the more he didnt. he said he had to get used to sex again, after turning off all his sexual feeling while we were apart and then sudenly we were taogether. so it took him some time and he said that he wanted it more when i didnt seem to harp on it so much. i dunno, it's gotten better for us some latly and all but he does work all the time and when he's stressed out sex happenes a lot less.

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God i couldnt keep mine off me and by the time 2 weeks rolled around i begged my ob for some kind of birth control so she gave me a shot. then 4 weeks later i got the mirena and that really made him get weird on me because of the idea of a small nylon string hanging down, i said give me a break. Hell i dont even want it anymore

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That was an interesting perspective....

Anyway, my boyfriend and I are going through something similar. I had a baby 4 months ago, and I think I can count the number of times we've had sex on both hands. I thought that we would have sex regularly as soon as I was able to, but it hasn't been that way. I would guess once a week, if I'm lucky. I've found that the more pressure I put on him to have sex, the less we have it. He says that talking about it all the time definitely doesn't help. The one thing that I haven't tried is making an effort. Sounds stupid, I know. It's just hard, because I feel like he doesn't want it and I'm forcing him. It's just that the situation is totally different now, because I'm used to him always wanting to have sex and me being the one who's not always in the mood. It definitely puts a lot of stress on our relationship.

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I know exactly what you are going through......everyone has different sex drives. I would sit down and have a serious convo about it and let him know that it bothers you and is very frustrating to you.
I know my husband and I have had issues about this, and I try not to bring it up very often because it usually ended up in a fight, and then neither one of us wanted sex after that.
How was his childhood?? May seem like a wierd question, but I think the way you were raised can have a lot to do with how you show affection.

Good Luck, and I hope it gets better for you. Keep me posted!

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thats so sad.

I don't think hes cheating or gay.

It could be that he just is not in the mood?

have you set the mood for him?
tried something new maybe?

wake him up in the middle of the night with kisses all over?

my husband did this to me too but not for that amount of time.
always said hes too tired. still does matter of fact.
I just found a way around that. lol
wake him up in the middle of the night with kisses all over..lol...
then just jump on him..
he will have to say yes then
hahaa

instead of asking just mess with him more and show him you are serious
and that this is really bothering you

do things you havent
maybe he just wants more.

I too have been dealing with the "tired" thing..
I found out that instead of asking to get it on.. just go ahead and get started and then if he refuses you stillllllllll.... then you may have a problem.


oh and the cuddling
my husband been having that problem too.
so I just craw right up with him AFTER he is asleep. LOL.. then he snuggles until the baby wakes up to be breastfed again.. hehe

sometimes men just don't feel like it. they really realllly want to go to bed after a long day. we too want to go to bed. but as women we also want more. just try anything and everything
and if nothing works then something may be wrong.
but try everything first

I dont know what it is...maybe i should be happy that my husband is all over me. Im about 6 weeks and I cant stand for him to touch me sometimes I need some of how you feel. 'Cause he always...always ...always wants it.

You can't stand it when your husband touches you? Now, that is a problem!

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