My signature is indicative of my current "condition". While I'm aware that quite a few people are intrigued by pregnant women, I can't help but have an aversion to the constant comments or need to touch me. I may sound horrible, but I want to crawl into a hole until this is over lol. I can't seem to go anywhere without hearing daily updates on my current size (Yes, I'm aware that a size 3 will no longer even approach the top of my legs), or people that need to feel if the baby is kicking. This is fine when it's a family member or a close friend, but a lady in the store shouldn't feel that she can just reach and touch.

I feel the same way after I have a baby. I feel strange about people needing to come over and comment/compliment on baby when we're in public (which is one of the reasons I limit being in public with an infant). Yes, I love my baby, but I just feel awkward with so much attention. Am I the only one who feels this way? Dh is pretty much the same. He'll actually take the grocery cart and try to make a getaway as soon as an old lady starts coming after us

This could be another reason I'm so thankful my kids have never thrown a tantrum in a store lol This is a strange idea, but it works. I told my 3 year old that we are only allowed to take things from the store that are on the list. If they aren't on the list they belong to the store and can't leave. He bought it That, and we have never bought little toys or candy and given them to him while we went to the store. If we thought he deserved a treat we'd hide it from him until we were home and he didn't know it actually came from the store. It works quite well. As for restaurants, well, we just avoid those for now. (I think the waitresses/waiters are thanking us somewhere for avoiding the potential mess)

So, this turned into a rant/expression of my strangeness lol.I can't be the only person that doesn't like attention from strangers. I'm sure there's at least one other oddball out there lol

In short, I just want people to stop commenting on my incredibly large abdomen!

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I have never had strangers try to touch me. I must give off a vibe But I do not like negative comments on my size I don't mind questions re:due date, do you have others etc. I like talking about my kids

I don't mind people talking too or about my kids ie he is so cute etc. But I do dislike unsolicited advise like he needs a blanket etc. .

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Asexuality: It's not just for amoebas anymore

"As long as two people love each other I don't think God cares whether they both have a hoo hoo or a haa haa" Marge Simpson

I know what you mean...

I hated when people used to touch my belly, even my own mom. I don't mind when my dh touches me, but no one else! I understand why they do it, though. I ran into an old friend the other day who was very obviously pregnant and I felt this insane need to rub her belly! LOL. I held back, though, remembering how I hated it when I was pregnant.

I got mostly nice comments, but I did get irritated when people would point out I was too young to have a baby (I was 19 when I had Matthew). Most would assume I was an unwed mother when in fact I was not. I got more than a few dirty looks from old ladies.

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I was at the restaurant having dinner and the waitress offered me something harder to drink like a margarita, I was all no, I'm pregnant, then she went for the belly but thought better of it when I gave her a dirty look, hehehe. I guess she couldn't tell with me sitting at the table.

I think I gave off vibes too. Not many people tried to touch me. Lol. I don't try to touch people either. I am only touchy feely with my family. In fact I get pretty uncomfortable when anyone outside of that tries to hug me or even touches me in conversation, like putting thier hand on my arm.

As for the kids in the restaurant, I never minded kids who made messes at the table or had a tantrum, most kids do, especially since we were off the freeway and they have been traveling a while. Who irritated the crap out of me was the woman who let her toddler push a chair all over the restaurant, the people who let thier kids play chase once, and the parents who jump on a server with a tray full of food for nearly tripping over a kid who goofs around and gets right in the way. Yep, I hate those parents and make sure they sense my aggravation.

I dont like attention at all either. We had a small family wedding because I didn't want attention but his parents insisted on a wedding. I would have been happy to elope! lol

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Formerly~Stressedmama/Amanda81~

Amanda-Happily married to James (2/01)
Mom to Sarah 5/98, Mikayla 5/01, Tyler 10/02 and Noah 10/03
and expecting a surprise August 2005.

Ohhh luckily you are not pregnant with twins I got tons of comments about my size. Or when they asked me if I was due any day and I told them I had 3 months left they would gasp. And everywhere we go we get stopped and asked....are they twins??? I personally don't mind people stopping us to look at the boys but I did hate when people tried to touch me when I was pregnant! Complete strangers, I don't get it either!

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I have not been touched yet, but if it does happen there will be some slappin! I told my coworkers months ago that I won't want to be touched. Then I told them that if they hear on the evening news that some pregnant lady smacked the hands of some stranger in the local WalMart - that would be me!

I know it's not nice to slap, but groping (that's what it is) is pretty darn close to assault - no matter what their intentions are! (Rest assured I would not slap an old lady, but she would get a very nice telling off).

I also have every intent of telling strangers that I am just fat. Maybe this will keep their groping at bay!

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I said that once to a guy (complete stranger) when he asked if I was ready to pop yet.

I HATED being groped at when I was pregnant!!! Even at work, customers would reach right across the counter to touch my belly. My boss put up a sign that said, "Not responsible for damage to those who touch the hormonal, pregnant lady."

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[quote=Serenade My boss put up a sign that said, "Not responsible for damage to those who touch the hormonal, pregnant lady." [/QUOTE]

Lol! I bet people thught twice about touching your belly after that. Unless they were really dense.

Jen, sometimes ya just gotta get a little mouthy. When I was pregnant with dd, we were riding in an elevator, and a fellow got on at another floor. Just dh and I, and this fellow. He reaches over and says "Can I touch your belly?" and started to lay his hand on my stomach. I said "Sure - if I can fondle your balls."

I think he about fainted - his hand snapped back, and he said "Why would you say that?"

I replied with "Well geez, regardless of how far out my belly protrudes, it's still MY BODY - I don't understand why people I don't know from a hole in the wall, think it's ok to fondle pregnant bellies. Fondle a woman at any other point in her life, and it's assault. I figure if it's ok for you to fondle parts of MY body, then it should be equally ok if I fondle parts of you, don't you think?"

Helped that he was a somewhat captive audience. He didn't reply, and when the doors opened, he took off out of there like a shot - and I daresay he never tried fondling pregnant bellies after that.

The other thing that irritated the hell out of me when I was pregnant was people saying "What are you hoping for?" I finally got so tired of it, when someone next asked me that question, I replied with "Oh, we were thinking a lizard might be nice." I mean geez louise, what do you think we want??! A healthy baby of either sex is the plan.

Oh, and to keep admiring crowds away from you and the baby - just keep a stinky diaper close by at all times - has this amazing way of keeping the hordes at bay.

When preggo with Ds I got all those comments too, I was incredibly huge. At 6mths with him I was way bigger than I was at 9mths with Dd. On a week's cottage holiday 2mths before I was due all anyone wanted to talk to me about was whether or not I was going to go into labour and have the baby there.

You crack me up DJ - a lizard??????

Bobbi

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Oh my word, Dashboard, that is the funniest thing I've read in a long time

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Melinda
Mom to Jim (06/01) and Cam (08/05)

I hear you. When I was pg with dd all I wanted after 2 losses was a full term healthy child, but people kept going on and on about how a girl would make the "perfect" family(since we already had a son). WTF is a perfect family? Then when I was pg with ds2 all I heard was how Eddie was already too old for a brother, but a sister would be nice for April. While, I did wish for a sister for her as a sister myself, I really didnt care. As long as he was okay. Eddie loves both of them and April and Isaac get along well, like siblings. Lol. My mom only had a brother and they were quite close too. So, it didnt REALLY matter to me.

Wow....I never realized that people actually DO that sort of touching the belly thing. I feel really blessed now, that I went through three pregnancies without ever once having anyone reach out and touch the belly uninvited. I would have probably freaked out on anyone who tried....I have a "thing" about my personal space being invaded without my permission!!

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I must give off the "vibe" too! I don't recall any strangers touching me! I think I'd freak out too. I love the "Ok, can I fondle your balls?" comment! I'll remember that one.

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