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Stop counting!
This is a discussion on Stop counting! within the Coupletime (Rated PG) forums, part of the Love & Sex category; 3, 60, 24, 17, 624, I don't remember. Is there an answer to "How many men have you ...
3, 60, 24, 17, 624, I don't remember. Is there an answer to "How many men have you slept with?" that ever actually feels like the right number? And how do you count in the first place?
HOW TO COUNT
First off, how do you define sex? Well, if you're straight, probably by penetrative intercourse. If you're bi, then you are more likely to include any oral/manual encounter. If you're into BDSM, you might count the partners you've "played" with. Frankly, I think sex is 2 hot bodies going at it passionately (in whatever form you choose), so I'd say the rule of thumb for Total Number of Erotic Encounters should be all inclusive. (For example, sexually active lesbians who have never had sex with men are not virgins. Their number is not zero.) And there's the problem. Once you start counting your lovers, you may come up with a number that makes you feel...well...slutty or under-experienced. You may start "making expectations" like these: I don't remember his name; It was only the one time; I only count men I loved; It was just oral; It was before I became celibate.
I don't think the number should really matter. I don't live in my past or in my DH's so what is in either of our past isn't important. It's not that we haven't discussed it or anything like that but I never felt the need to give "my number" nor ask for his.
I have slept with ONE GUY!! And that is my BF/DH or whatever you would like to call him. I have been with him since I was 16 years old!! & I am now 22!!!!! Crazy hey??
The number has never mattered to me, and I have never asked him about it. It's really none of my business what happened before we got together. The only number that I'm concerned with is how many women other than me has he had sex with since we got together. If the answer is more than 0, then I have a problem. And he's never had to ask me, he was my first everything. My first boyfriend, my first kiss, my first partner in every way. First & only.
Well DH and I were not each others first, seconds, or thirds, etc. I don't have a problem with the numbers. Unless it's some crazy ridiculous number. Anything over 2 digits make me feel a little uneasy.
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Lisa (27) & Doug (33) Logan Douglas (1) 12/26/06 Angel ~ Layla Catherine (18 weeks) 9/17/03
Well He was my Fist and I was his First we have been together since we were 17 and have not been with each out hr since we were 17 and are now 24 so we have issues there.
Stop counting!
to that! No Number problems here!!
