I didn't know exactly how to do the title. I've got 3, youngest being a year old in Oct. I drive my kids to and from school every day, and in between those times doing housework. My dh works full time and goes to school full time, when do I see him you ask? Well I feel like a single mom sometimes. He gets home around 9pm, after the kids are in bed. And then he gets on the puter and plays his video game. Time for me? Hardly. So how can I make more time for us? I get so tired after all day of running and cleaning. Dh doesn't understand.

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I'm so sorry you are having problems. Matt and I average about 1.5 hours a day together with us and the kids. We both work full time. I know it sucks. How do your weekends work?? Do you have time together on the weekends?

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I can relate with you completely.
Making time for the two of you is a joint effort to say the least. It really takes sitting down and talking about it together and deciding on scheduling 'dates'.

I know you would probably rather have the spontaneus times but when you have kids that is very hard. The only spontanaity you probably have is never knowing what your kids will do next!

If d/h does not understand that you really desire time alone with him and how important it is you can try a couple things. One idea is to arrange a sitter and instead of waiting for d/h to come home from work, go to his work and meet him as he gets off. (If you can have a friend drop you off there thats great, if not then the two vehicles will just have to be worked out!)

Then 'hubby-nap' him and go for drinks, dinner or whatever you can afford to arrange. Then while you are alone you can tell him about your desires. He may get the hint.

If that does not work, start sending him some naughty / pervocative emails or leave him messages on little notes on his computer or in his wallet. Things like "I really miss dates with you" or "I really miss being your princess" etc..whatever applies to your personality.

If those suggestions dont work, plan a night out with your girlfriends and leave him with the kids. Does a rubber hammer come to mind? doh!

Hope these suggestions help. And remember, men CANNOT read minds. They are just not wired like us gals. They really need to be told exactly how you feel and what you need. (Even if he acts like he resents it!)

MK

I'm in the same boat a you. My DH works full time, goes to school full time, and is addicted to selling stuff on EBAY. I'm a stay at home mom too. I work my butt off. He dosen't understand what my day is like EVEN WHEN I TELL HIM. We have been married for six years, we have two kids, and we would really like a 3rd....I must be insane, but the kids are really my only true happiness in my life. I think that me and my DH get along better now that we don't barely see each other. Can we say problem! What am I doing. Good luck to you. I feel your pain mama.

Shannon

I hope things have gotten a little easier for you. Your post was a few months ago so is there any update that things have gotten better?