I have a boyfriend, he is really sweet most of the time, but he can be really harsh as well. I don't think he realises that some things he says are actually really hurtful. Like the other day when I was saying something about politics he said "I couldn't care less about politics, so stop pretending you know something about it when you don't", then changed the topic.
I usually just keep my mouth shut to save a fight. Is anyone else in a similar situation?

I used to be. But that was a long time ago, and a few men ago too. There is no amount of great sex of "mostly nice" that can erase the fact that this person doesn't give any kind of credit to your thoughts or your feelings. A comment like you have reported here is an indication that he doesn't value your opinions. My grandmother used to tell me, to have a good relationship you have to be able to communicate as well as fornicate - and as lowbrow as her comment may be, it is true. Who cares if you care about politics or not? Apparently you were trying to be involved in a conversation with him or show some interest in something he is interested in. That's the part of the puzzle he should have noticed.

Take note if he does this all the time. You don't deserved to be demeaned or made to feel stupid or unimportant. You, girlfriend, should be valued - and if he can't see that, trust me, someone will.

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I agree with justducky. I also was treated this way by a man years ago when I was in my early 20's. I stayed with him for 5 years and allowed him to treat me the way you have described your bf treating you. You are a part of that relationship and you have a right to talk about things that interest you. I'm sure not everything he does and says you are interested in but you don't dismiss him like his feelings mean nothing. You have a right to be treated like an equal, with respect.

I have never been in a relationship like that. However I do agree with PP.

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If he respected you, he would listen to what you had to say REGARDLESS of his interest in the subject.

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