Nervous

Lisa_n_Trish · #1 (**permalink**) 02-28-2007, 12:29 PM

Hey All!!!

I'm usually a lurker, but I need to know if what I'm feeling is normal. But first a little background info on me and my wife. We have been together for almost 5yrs, and this is our first cycle actually ttc, we wanted to make sure that we were ready before actually trying. Right now I'm on CD 6 and usually O on CD 13 or 14. Sperm is bought, OPKs are ready, and everything seems to be going as planned. So now all I can do is wait, but that's easier said than done. I feel like I should be doing more to increase my chances, the nurse and doctor tell me I have nothing to worry about that I'm young and extremely regular but there must be something that I can do,right?

I'm a self proclaimed control freak. Everyone keeps on saying, "babies are expensive", but thats not what makes me nervous. Budgeting money is one of my strong points, and I have already begun to start pricing all baby needs. what makes me scared and nervous, are the thing I can't control. I can't control my ovulation, I can't make the sperm find and fertilize my egg, and most of all if I get preggers I can't make my lil' bean stick. I dont know what to do with these thoughts....

Lisa

2moms2be · #2 (**permalink**) 02-28-2007, 02:42 PM

First off I wanted to welcome you out of lurkdom! Please stay a while there are some really wonderful women on this board.

I am a type A personality too, so I know exactly where you are coming from. At this time the ABSOLUTE BEST thing you can do is take good care of yourself. Rest, RELAX, eat healthy, drink lots of water, take your prenatal vitamins, treat yourself to a massage, anything that makes you feel calm and not wired is a good thing.

Good luck to you and your wife. Please keep us updated!!!

Care75 · #3 (**permalink**) 02-28-2007, 06:05 PM

Lisa-

Welcome!

Another self-described type A here! DP and I have been at this a LONG time, and the one thing I've learned is to try and control what I can and that's the positive things that I can do. Just like Patty said- I've focused on eating right (I now eat many more organics- milk, meat, fruits, veggies), drinking water, RELAXING (self-meditation), acupuncture, etc. Focusing on these things makes me think that I'm doing all I can to give myself ANY advantage possible.

It's hard to not to be in control though! I wish you the best! Join our chatty thread- it really helps to pass the time- especially the dreaded 2WW!!!

A Squared · #4 (**permalink**) 03-02-2007, 08:31 AM

Hi Lisa.

I'm glad you joined us!

with what Carrie and Patty had to say. As another Type A personality, I have to say that at first (and still sometimes) it was very difficult not to have control over when I ovulated, whether the timing of the insemination was right, and whether I got pregnant right away. I was on a "timeline" in which I "needed" to get pregnant by a certain date (because of my job). Well....many months later that deadline is long gone and I realized things will happen in their own time. Not to say this isn't frustrating sometimes! I think talking to the women on this board helped a lot. I also think doing things to relax me (like acupuncture and meditation) and get my mind off things (keeping busy, going away for day trips) helped a lot.

Lisa_n_Trish · #5 (**permalink**) 03-05-2007, 09:34 AM

Well thats good to hear, I thought I was just being anal.

Well today I'm at CD11, doing my OPKs until I get that positive then I call the RE and set up an IUI for the next day.

The sad thing is that my wife will not be able to go with me to the IUI, because her boss is going through a prick phase about letting her take a day off, and since she isn't on a contract he can fire her if she just calls out. So I told hr not to worry about it, that I'll be on the phone with her the whole time. A couple of my close co-workers offered to go so that I won't be alone (one of which is a nurse who is leaning towards learning midwifery) so I know I won't be alone, but I'm not going to lie, I do wish my wife could be there.

Until later,
Lisa

A Squared · #6 (**permalink**) 03-05-2007, 09:59 AM

Lisa, It's too bad your DP can't come to the appointment with you. I know it always means a lot to me when my DP is there. However, an IUI isn't really a big deal. The worst part is the speculum. In fact, it's pretty much like getting a pap. Maybe you can plan to do a little fertility dance together later to help her feel involved with the process.

JesnKel · #7 (**permalink**) 03-06-2007, 06:25 PM

Hi!

I'm new here also. I too find this whole getting pregnant thing VERY frustrating. I'm a planner, and am "young" (almost 32) and healthy and mostly regular until this cycle. This week (if I ovulate) will be our 4th IUI. I told myself to count on a year of trying when we started but I guess I really thought we'd be there by now. There is no reason for me to be as frustrated as I am...

so I hear you.
I too have been focusing in on my exercise, diet, meditation and yoga.

maybe it will do the trick -

good luck!

Jessica

Cheyenne2411 · #8 (**permalink**) 03-18-2007, 01:00 PM

Wow, I am new here as well and I find it very comforting to know that i am not the only one that has some of these worries. My DP and I are in our first IUI cycle try. I am just waiting for my O to schedule the procedure. I have been O testing for the last 2 1/2 days and am rather frustrated by the fact it has not yet been positive. We also have priced everything.. pretty much have it all picked out and ready to take care of once we recieve a BFP. I just wish we could control the BFP.. lol oh well... guess life wouldn't be exciting if there weren't a few things outside of our control..