After 4 years of the most stable relationship of my life, my partner and I are going to try to make a baby! I'm excited-really excited and like everyone else, want to be pregnant yesterday!
So I'm all freaked out because, after spending the ENTIRE day scouring over this message board, I'm thinking this is going to be a lot harder then I thought! We've been to see the doctor, who seems to think this will be a sinch. Since I don't have insurance that covers ANY of this-the doc says he will do only what is needed to get us pregnant as soon as possible. I mention this because I'm thinking-again-after reading these posts-that what he has proposed is just not gonna do the trick!
So -can anyone give me tips on what else/more I should ask him to do based on what we've done and what he says comes next? I'm thinking that not only do we not plan to spend a ton of cash on making this baby, but being a super-impatient person, I might end up at the funny farm if I have a laundry list of months and procedures that didn't pan out!!
First thing I did was cancel the appointment at the infertility clinic. Seems when you talk about your partner to straight people, they assume you are also straight and have been trying to conceive without success for some time. When I explain that my biggest problem is a spermless household, they still want to put my square butt into their round hole solutions.
So at a women's clinic 45 miles out of this "big city" we live in (full of infertile straight women) I received an pap smear and the rest of the fun stuff that goes on when you are in the stirrups. From what the doctor says (how much about my fertility he could tell from all that I don't know) it all seems normal. After much jabbering about a lot of stuff-he seems to agree that I shouldn't have any issues with IUI. Most likely, from my very consistent, painless periods prefaced by insanly raging PMS that is just getting worse with age, I should be fairly fertile. To be sure, I went back on the 24th of this month to to accquire one of what I assume will be many brusies where the brut nurse poked me for blood. Seems that was the 23rd day of my cycle...still not sure what the test was for-I think I get the results tomorrow to see if I'm ovulating. Does that sound right?
Then, we got the website for the Fairfax Cryobank so we can begin to disagree on donors. I'm to call in to the office when I start this month (thinking that I should say when AF arrives??) and schedule a delivery for the sperm-and ultrasound on the 12th day(?) along with a shot of Ovidrel (?) and the IUI on the 13th day. Does that sound right?????
Doesn't that seem too easy? I realize I probably won't get a BFP (is that also right??) the first time-which is probably best because I'm still weening myself from massive amounts of caffeine and red wine...but I would like to get this show on the road!!
Am I in the right place? Can ya'll help me out on this????
Thanks for listening to me jabber on!!!
Shannon
Hi! New here...(and a little freaked out!)
Re: Hi! New here...(and a little freaked out!)
. I'm sure all of the girls here will agree with me that this is a wild and crazy ride. Full of hope, desires, dreams, frustrations, and eventually, when we get the BFP, amazement and disbelief. My advice (which is easier said than done) is to try and relax, enjoy the whole process and imagine what your child is going to be when they grow up. It is definitely frustrating. I was the one to try and get pregnant until after two unsuccessful attempts, my doc decided for me to get an HSG to make sure everything was clear. It turned out that my uterus is too small to carry a baby to term. Now, I'm a big girl, and I couldn't believe that the only small thing on me turns out to be my uterus. So, now my dear wife, Inger is up to bat. We have had three unsuccessful attempts with her at the helm, but after a clear HSG on her, we are attempting again in early November. If we don't get pg then, we will wait until after the stress of the holidays to be complete. It's getting to a scary point for us now because like you, our insurance doesn't cover it and we are paying for it ourselves. Our money is depleting very quickly, and we are almost out of it. If Inger was younger, I wouldn't stress about it because we could just save up again, then try later, but she just turned 40 earlier this month, so the biological clock is ticking very loudly.
She is no where to be found! We can't even get started on this journey!! G/F says it's work related stress that has finally subsided that is causing me to get back on schedule. She's forever the optimist!! And she thinks I should practice relaxing! Do they make a baby-friendly pill for that?? 
