Mindyzbaby: WOW! There's a name for it! (attachment parenting)


First, to explain. My partner Em and I live with our best friends, Julie, and her husband Doug. It's easier to afford everything that way and it helps with moral support. ( I have panic attacks and bad bi polar, which means mood swings from hell.) Julie and Doug have 5 beautiful children, 3 girls and 2 boys. I help Julie during the day with the kids, and Em and Doug work full time. It's a nuturing enviorment for all of us; Julie and Em have been the biggest support in my TTC journey.
Reading about the attachment parrenting, it's almost exactly what's practiced in the household. The kids all know us and Auntie Em and Aunt Jessi. Yes, like THAT auntie em. When hunter was born 4 months ago, he was in NICU for almost a week, and his older brother Tyler, 2, ended up cosleeping with us. After Hunter came home, Julie was worried about jealousy issues (and there were some) so Tyler got his own bed in my room, and we're slowly getting him to sleep with his older sisters. (8,6, and 3).

I think it's a wonderful philosophy, and Em and I plan to follow it, if we ever get kids. If not, at least I got to have the wonderful experience of watching/helping her raise her angels. Sorry to rant so long.

Jessi

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Jesssi, Sorry I just saw your post. Have you tested this cycle? Just curious. Your very welcome for the information. I was at the laundry mat yesturday and some lady was trying to "give away" her 3 year old son to a stranger! She kept saying ... I'll give him to you... but I promise you'll bring him back. Some people are so insensative to their child's feelings. I watched as the little boy kept looking at his mom with such uncertainty as if to say "would you really give me away?" ... I'm sure the boy wondered what he did to make his mom say that and the feelings of uncertainty of not being wanted by our own mom... gosh... finally another lady spoke up and said that she would take her little angel and not bring him back. The little boy then ran over to her! It was obvious the boy is starved for a nourturing relationship! Anyhow... I hope you get what you want. Don't know if you saw our post this morning. We are 12DPO and got a BFN. We will jus wait for AF to come in a few days and see what happens. If she doesn't show up .... then we'll test again.

Hi guys, just wanted to say AP rocks!! It's cool to see other lesbian families with those values - yikes, it is bad enough being a minority as a lesbian parent, let alone delving into the different parenting styles. AP has worked really well here for us, even though it isn't something I knew about ahead of time! It was in my search to find other parents that followed the same practices that I came across the whole concept. Certain things just felt "right" for our son despite what the mainstream ideas are. Allisson - so sad about that 3 year old and his mom. I know someone like that who is always asking me if I want a 3 year old.. I've noticed he only gets more sullen and ill-mannered when he hears things like that. Ok enough babbling here... I just couldn't help myself from jumping in!

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Tracy,mama to Toby

I have to admit, that I have teased my older neice once aabout selling her to gypsies. As soon as I saw she was worried I sat her down and reassured her, and asked her what she honetly thought I'd do to someone who tried to take her away from me. I think her response was "beat them up a lot." How can parents not notice things like that upset thier children?

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