any advice...frustrated

S&S · #1 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 07:46 AM

I am soo frustrated at this point i don't know what to do with myself i am cy day 16 and I have a follicle on the left that is 19 so I have to do the iui tomorrow which means once again we can only do one because they are not open on Sunday's. also he said my lining is decreasing instead of increasing and he doesn't know why...hhmmm maybe it is because at my last visit your rushed through it and didn't measure it right. I am really stuck because it's not like I can go find another RE this is the first one that I could find that would work with a lesbian couple ( gotta love Florida) and he is an hour away. to top it all off my appt. was at 8:15 and I didn't see the DR until 9:15. I just feel like giving up everything is stacked against me....I don't even feel excited to have the IUI cause it never works! I did triple the injectables this cycle and still only had one mature follice, no one seems to be concerned

ok sorry for the rambling just really upset today.

IUI #12 3/1/08

hematite153 · #2 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 02:56 PM

Shannon

I'm sorry things aren't feeling good. Advice is a hard thing to offer because you know your situation better than anyone else. I'll give it a try, but, please ignore anything that doesn't sound right.

If they are closed on Sundays, can you do an at home IUI? (We've never done this, but, I know people who have.) Btw, I think it's a bad sign for a doctor/clinic that specializes in fertility to be closed every seventh day. We get different techs on the weekend and they have a skeleton staff, but, they do everything everyday (except for two 3-day times a year when they close everything down to micro-clean, but, they don't let people start drug cycles if there's a chance they could trigger in that window--we get annoyed when we hit it, but, I'm glad they are so clear with us).

I'm sorry that you live in such a difficult place (from a political perspective). I read an article this summer about someone who had taken a fertility clinic to court for refusing to provide services because she was a lesbian. (I think she was in CA.) My understanding was that her case was making it to the supreme court. Does anyone know anything about this? I think the lower court findings were that it was a violation of her constitutional rights for them to have refused her.

We moved on to IVF because the stats on super-ov aren't really as good as people'd like to believe. A lot of clinics (like ours) will do IVF with people from out of town. You go for initial appointments, get drugs and teaching, they give you orders for bloodwork and U/S near home and when you reach a certain point you have to come stay close (usually for about 2 weeks). It would add to the cost (a lot!), but, would mean that you could choose a clinic where you don't feel like a number and where they accepted lesbian couples as normal.

Sorry, this was long and likely not terribly helpful. But, please know that you are in my thoughts and I'll have my fingers crossed for success.

Oh--one more idea. Are they giving you ovidrel or HcG? If you took ovidrel tonight then the follicle should pop at the right time for a Sat IUI (you can even take it tomorrow morning with reasonable success). I was ovulating successfully on my own, but, they gave me ovidrel in order to sync the timing better and improve the chances of success.

sado0604 · #3 (**permalink**) 02-29-2008, 03:03 PM

Shannon - I am so sorry that you are going through all that! Have they checked all your hormone levels? The reason I ask is that I had an elevated FSH which meant my ovaries were not producing a lot of eggs and the ones I was producing were not of great quality. They had me on high dosages of Gonal-F and other meds and I was lucky to produce 6 mature follicles of which only 2 were of any good quality.

I dont know what it is like to not have good doctors available as I live in MA but I have heard FL is terrible in certain parts. Are you able to find a doctor and maybe not tell them your lesbian? I hate to even say that but maybe you would get a better response as a single woman that wants to have a baby. I cant believe they are not available on Sunday's either! When I was doing the IUI's w/ my son you could go on a Sunday to another place but it cost $350 instead of $250.

I wish there was something I could say or do that would make it better but just know you are in my thoughts and prayers!

Good luck w/ the IUI tomorrow I hope this is the one!

2moms2be · #4 (**permalink**) 03-01-2008, 03:22 AM

Shannon- If you dont mind me asking who is your RE? (You can em me if you want.) The RE I used in Orlando had someone (either him or the nurse practitioner) come in on all days including sunday. They are a great team of people and I loved them. If you want I can give you his mane he is in College Park area, near the hospital.

S&S · #5 (**permalink**) 03-03-2008, 03:56 PM

Thanks for the advice, I am seeing Dr.Trolice in Winter Park. I had my IUI on saturday and everything went good 32 million motile so that was good. our nurse who did the IUI said if this one doesn't take we might want to have a sit down, but I am dreading that because if he tells me we should move to IVF I will be upset, unfortunatly we can afford that and we already have outstanding loans for all the IUI's...so hope is on the line that this works, I can't believe out of 11 IUI's i have never gotton pregnant...it amazes me not even one time!

hematite153 · #6 (**permalink**) 03-03-2008, 07:08 PM

Glad to hear it went well and I'll have my fingers crossed for you.

I'm sorry that the first 11 didn't work, but, I'm going to focus on this being THE ONE!

Good luck!